AIBU?
That Dd2 work placement would give her the day off for dd1 graduation.
livedtotellthetale · 21/06/2017 16:14
Dd1 is graduating in July in her University town. The plan was for me and Dd2 to go they are no contact with their dad. I booked a hotel for the night a nice meal after the ceremony. Dd2 is in her second year at University she found our last week that she has got a high sort after paid placement doing something which is very connected to her degree for two months over the summer. She emailed asking for the day off for her Dsis graduation explain that it's just me and her going. They have said no as the nature of the placement. She is devasted so is Dd1. She was only asking for the one day and wouldn't even stay overnight in the hotel. She is away with the placement from Mon to Friday for the two months but could have got to the graduation in the day. My Dm is now going to come but as it's just been me and dds for 10 years and are close it was something they wanted to share with each other and me.
user1495522824 · 21/06/2017 16:24
YABU. The phrase "the nature of the placement" should tell you why they won't let her go - and why it's probably better she doesn't miss a day.
Plus graduations are really over-hyped IMO. It's impersonal, over in ten seconds and you don't actually have to go. Mine was nice but hardly enhanced by my (very dear to me) parents attending and DCousin refused to go to his and the sky hasn't fallen in on him yet. Just have a special celebratory meal with your Dds when you can be together. Much more special and personal.
EdmundCleverClogs · 21/06/2017 16:29
I can understand this is important to you as a family, however it's not the end of the world. Could you not arrange a similar family celebration for another time, record the ceremony and watch it together? In all honesty the graduation day is all rather underwhelming, long boring day when the individual person's part of getting the degree is over within 20 seconds. It sounds like your second daughter's placement is very important, and therefore should be treated as such. A graduation doesn't cut the mustard in terms of 'must have' time off unfortunately.
DSHathawayGivesMeFannyGallops · 21/06/2017 16:41
Does the uni in question livestream? Mine did and my then bf watched that as he couldn't get a ticket. I then watched his the same way. Any chance Dd2 could watch from work or take a break and make time up? Then she has watched the graduation and shared the moment but is still at work.
livedtotellthetale · 21/06/2017 16:44
Migrraleve were did I say that Dd2 is not happy about the placement and dd1 is proud and pleased that her Dsis got it. Just as Dd2 is proud of her Dsis graduating and would love to have spent that day with her. We are not negative actuallt the oppisite
harderandharder2breathe · 21/06/2017 16:50
YABU
In almost every job, annual leave can be refused for business reasons
My employer is pretty flexible and has no restrictions except over Christmas (everyone requests their Christmas leave at the same time) but only X number of people can be off at the same time, popular days/weeks get booked up early in the year. Other jobs will restrict time off in school holidays or in term time.
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