That Dd2 work placement would give her the day off for dd1 graduation.

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Dd1 is graduating in July in her University town. The plan was for me and Dd2 to go they are no contact with their dad. I booked a hotel for the night a nice meal after the ceremony. Dd2 is in her second year at University she found our last week that she has got a high sort after paid placement doing something which is very connected to her degree for two months over the summer. She emailed asking for the day off for her Dsis graduation explain that it's just me and her going. They have said no as the nature of the placement. She is devasted so is Dd1. She was only asking for the one day and wouldn't even stay overnight in the hotel. She is away with the placement from Mon to Friday for the two months but could have got to the graduation in the day. My Dm is now going to come but as it's just been me and dds for 10 years and are close it was something they wanted to share with each other and me.

Do parents really meet the lecturers and whatnot these days? Blimey, it really has become like school.

Not really, VintagePerfumista - I go to graduations because I've taught the students for 3 years & want to be there to see them graduate. We sometimes meet their parents - but only if the students themselves bring their parents over to meet us. And this is generally because our students have enjoyed their time, and want their parnts to meet some of the people who've taught them. I always take it as a compliment if a student wants to introduce me to his/her parents. It's not like a school parents' night!

It's Open Days that we get the pushy parents - by the time their DC graduate - 3 to 4 years' later, I think parents have learned that university is not school.

Yes, I can understand it put that way InLove (and I shall be singing that song all day now!) We just had our pics taken with our parents and then went off to the Grad Ball. Back when dinosaurs walked the earth My parents did meet our favourite old fella lecturer after the ceremony, but they (parents and lecturer) weren't involved in any alcohol consumption afterwards!

Mystery- not unreasonable to want to, of course not. Also not unreasonable to be refused time off on a short term summer job.

@warriorsdance I have no issue with an employer refusing leave. I do have an issue with an employer questioning someone's commitment because they merely asked to attend a family event which, presumably, is a one-off. The sister may not have another graduation.

She's not asking to go on a shopping trip.

There are clearly some very aggressive employers on this thread. I hate to break this to you, but good people are not that easy to get. It's better to treat staff nicely. When you interview someone, they are interviewing you as much as you are interviewing them. Some people seem to forget that and think they always have the upper hand. It's simply not true, I'm afraid. Yes students are keen to get graduate roles but employers need them, too.

You also all assume that the HR team who she presumably asked the question of have time to start gossiping about peoples' commitment with their colleagues with whom the placement students are working. Somehow I doubt it.

Why all the nasty replies?!? "its only a shitty boring graduation, you are U for wanting to do anything nice as a family, fucking looser"

1. It is totally not U to ask for a day off from a two month summer placement. We run summer internships, and generally grant holiday requests.

1. Graduations are nice. Maybe slightly boring in the actual ceremony bit it is a chance to say good bye to your friends, show your family the university, have a nice lunch and to celebrate your achievement. You should be proud of graduating.

1. Its nice to do things as a family. Its nice the sisters want to be there for each other.

Christ some nasty comments here!