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Fuming at DH embarrassing me

72 replies

BlackAppleCore · 20/06/2017 08:45

DHs mate was here yesterday and unfortunately we have a problem with smelly towels so whilst his mate was here DH came to me and said "yet another towel that stinks". I laughed awkwardly as his mate was there so DH dead serious said "why do they though?". I said "what??" So he said "why do all the towels stink?" I said I didn't know so he said it was because I wipe my massive crotch on them. His mate was in hysterics so I just gave him the look and said something like "wow, very grown up of you" and walked off. I heard his mate say "as if you just said that to her!" And DH said "no it's an in joke that she's pretending she doesn't know about. She's got a pair of jeans that make her crotch look massive, that's what I was on about". I'm so embarrassed and have told him yet he insists it's an "in joke" that I have decided to "forget".

AIBU to think that shouting about your wife's crotch in front of mates isn't a joke at all? This morning I yelled "wow your crotch looks so tiny in those shorts it's practically concave!" In the driveway to which he snapped "be quiet! Jesus the neighbours are out in their garden for fucks sake". So how is mine not a joke but his is???

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BrevilleTron · 20/06/2017 08:50

He's a nasty arsehole. Can give it out but not take it.

So it's all right to 'joke' in front of his mates but not where anyone else could hear.

If he's hung like a hamster OP ....
Leave him.

Stumbleine · 20/06/2017 08:50

Horrible thing to say to you. He sounds very juvenile. Mind you, your retaliation didn't cover you in glory either.

As an aside - why DO your towels smell?? Confused

cometseekers · 20/06/2017 08:50

What a arse to belittle you like that, not nice. He needs speaking to, tell him that this is not to happen again. As for the towels try washing on the hottest wash possible. Sounds like your washing machine could do with a few hot washes. Are you doing lots of 30 wash cycles as this isn't hot enough to clean gunk from machine.

Fairylea · 20/06/2017 08:51

Shock How awful of him. I wouldn't find that funny at all! Shock

As a side note - and I apologise for this because I'm a complete house work nerd- but have you tried washing the towels on a very hot (boil) wash with soda crystals, bold powder and then a rinse wash afterwards? Always sorts ours our and cleans the machine too.

Redken24 · 20/06/2017 08:52

Whole bottle of vinegar in the drum at 100.

Your husband has a shit sense of humour.

missyB1 · 20/06/2017 08:52

Has he always been so immature? That kind of crass behaviour would just make me lose respect I'm afraid. Remind him he's not 14 anymore.

gamerchick · 20/06/2017 08:56

Mint it's now his job to sort the towel issue out because he's a cock.

Why do they smell though, is your washing machine broken?

OohMavis · 20/06/2017 09:00

"wow your crotch looks so tiny in those shorts it's practically concave!"

Grin

He's a fucking arsehole OP. DH would never say anything like this about me, what a grim thing to say.

Penfold007 · 20/06/2017 09:03

Does he have any good points?

As for the towels, no need for them to smell. A good hot wash with a handful of soda crystals and if possible line dried.

dottingcrazy · 20/06/2017 09:08

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caffeinestream · 20/06/2017 09:09

What a knob.

What temperature are the towels being washed at though? Cause eco washes at 30/40 degrees just won't cut it.

Fluffyears · 20/06/2017 09:09

If dp had done that to me him and the towels would be dumped. I siggrst you make him aware that his is on very very thin ice at the moment.

putdownyourphone · 20/06/2017 09:11

I loved your comeback! Amazing!

You need to dettol the washing machine at a high temp then wash the towels at a high temp. Or buy new ones....

soundoff · 20/06/2017 09:11

he's an idiot. can dish it out but not take it.

As for the towels as soon as the heating goes off for summer ours are the same. It's because they don't dry quick enough. You need to rotate / wash them more often.

Having said that mils towels always have a familiar musk to them so i guess that could be how you're washing them.

Crumbs1 · 20/06/2017 09:12

Are towels being put away slightly damp? Good hot wash with biological detergent and hang on line.

YoureNotASausage · 20/06/2017 09:13

What a jerk. And why does he think the towels are your fucking problem.

Chloe84 · 20/06/2017 09:17

Ugh, nasty fucker.

I hope you're not letting him get away with this?

I can't imagine my husband saying that to me when we're alone, let alone in front of his friend.

Is he nasty in other ways?

Roomster101 · 20/06/2017 09:17

Your DH is a prat.

Are the towels drying quickly enough? They need to go outside or be tumbled dried. You also need to do a boil wash at (90 degrees every now and then). If you live in a hard water it might also help if you descaler product.

upperlimit · 20/06/2017 09:18

Why do we always get the 'you didn't cover yourself in glory either'. Is glory something we should be aiming for? Why? I think a bit of tit for tat is fine, especially when it highlights inequality.

Chloe84 · 20/06/2017 09:18

And make him wash the towels himself.

And humiliate him in front of his friends next time.

tabbymog · 20/06/2017 09:39

For the towels and machine, a 90º wash with a non-bio, non-colour powder. This is the only kind of detergent now that has a bleach in it. Source: The Which Report.

For your DH: Withdrawal of services and a serious warning about his future behaviour.

ratspeaker · 20/06/2017 09:42

Why is he asking YOU why the towels smell.
Where is his responsibility?
Cant he change them often?
Cant he use a washing machine?
Cant he put them on a hot wash?
Cant he dry them outside or in an airy room?

And he wouldnt be getting anywhere near me or my massive crotch until his attitude changed.
A joke is only a joke if both side laugh and find it funny

ThanksMsMay · 20/06/2017 09:43

Boil towels and dry outsid3 for 24 hours.

Divorce cockwomble

Zaphodsotherhead · 20/06/2017 09:43

Dry your towels outside.
And hang your DH out to dry while you're at it.

HolgerDanske · 20/06/2017 09:43

I actually would not forgive him for that. It's a disgusting way to speak to you and extremely disrespectful.

I would LTB. No, I mean I actually would. Except he'd be leaving. Idiot.