Fuming at DH embarrassing me

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DHs mate was here yesterday and unfortunately we have a problem with smelly towels so whilst his mate was here DH came to me and said "yet another towel that stinks". I laughed awkwardly as his mate was there so DH dead serious said "why do they though?". I said "what??" So he said "why do all the towels stink?" I said I didn't know so he said it was because I wipe my massive crotch on them. His mate was in hysterics so I just gave him the look and said something like "wow, very grown up of you" and walked off. I heard his mate say "as if you just said that to her!" And DH said "no it's an in joke that she's pretending she doesn't know about. She's got a pair of jeans that make her crotch look massive, that's what I was on about". I'm so embarrassed and have told him yet he insists it's an "in joke" that I have decided to "forget".

AIBU to think that shouting about your wife's crotch in front of mates isn't a joke at all? This morning I yelled "wow your crotch looks so tiny in those shorts it's practically concave!" In the driveway to which he snapped "be quiet! Jesus the neighbours are out in their garden for fucks sake". So how is mine not a joke but his is???

His own friend thought it was beyond the pale from what he said.

Tell him that you are going to make up an embarrassing in-joke (that he knows nothing about) to humiliate him next time you have your friends around. Then prime your friends to ensure the best reaction.

See how good a sense of humour he has then.

y do we always get the 'you didn't cover yourself in glory either'. Is glory something we should be aiming for? Why? I think a bit of tit for tat is fine, especially when it highlights inequality.

I was wondering that. She'd tried explaining she didn't like it which didn't work. He's at least learned he'll get it back if he keeps at it .

If your towels smell like wet dogs it's due to them being used and not drying out properly/staying damp.

Hot wash and get them on the line.

Your DH is a dick.

Good comeback. Your oh is a bell end.

I'm surprised nobody has mentioned zoflora yet though.

Your relationship sounds dysfunctional.

Yes, glory is what we women aspired to be covered in. Fuck that!

Wow that's not nice at all...

You both sound pretty bad.

I think it's hilarious that along with the support (or not) and talk of divorcing cockwombles, PP is getting handy hints on how to overcome the stinky towel disaster.

Only on MN, and it's brilliant. (Am putting soda crystals on my list right now).

BTW, OP, revolting, asinine, and not something I'd want to share a bed with for a while - esp if he's hung like a hamster.

Well that sounds like a loving, supportive relationship.

Even if there was an "in" joke about large crotches.
The link to the stinky towels is still rude.
And his friend obviously didnt know there was an in joke.
And even if he did, it is still rude.

Your comeback was proportional.

What he said was mortifying! Is he like this in other ways?

Talks like a twat.

Chuck him out & buy some new towels.

I couldn't forgive that.

Even if it was a joke between the two of you, his sole purpose in letting his friend in on it was to embarrass/humiliate/have a laugh at your expense.

Who wants to be with someone so cruel?

as a general rule people who love you would never insult you

Even if it was a joke between the two of you, his sole purpose in letting his friend in on it was to embarrass/humiliate/have a laugh at your expense.

^ This

Honestly, I think this would be grounds enough for me to LTB because it is so cruel. I was going to say unless he was abjectly sorry, but no - if he thought it was OK to do this even once, what sort of a person can he be and what must he feel about you?

Fucking twat.

Is he normally a belittling bastard?

I cannot even imagine ever being with anyone who is a loving, caring, respectful grown adult who would ever say something like that about me to his friend.

My mind boggles to hear what sort of immature idiots some women saddle themselves with.

It is likely bacteria that multiply when still damp - so forget the comfort and good hot wash with laundry disinfectant and a good blow outside - repeat and after a few washes should be good - check the machine is clean, don't leave washing in there to hang later and definitely don't dry towels inside.

Oh and I would take one towel and hide then wash every other bloody one and hang it out. Often its also using too many times before washing of keeping them in stinky gym bags etc

It actually is hilarious how some PP look past the huge relationship issue and focus on the minor towel issue!

I'd be fuming at the first part - approaching you to say about the towel, wtf is he doing about it?

then at the second part - hooo boy. he sounds like a rotten arsehole tbf.

Is there... something wrong with him?

To say something like that generally is just gross

I kind of applaud you for retaliating but you've not really left yourself a leg to stand on!

This thread is a great example of why I love mumsnet: 40% outrage at horrible DH; 40% advice on how to wash the towels; 20% feminist outrage at it being op's job to wash the towels. The perfect emotional/practical/ideological balance .

ALL three things are very important.

Oh that's really mean.

Towels need to dry quickly! Not just your problem though..