To tell next doors kids to sod off?!

[Mischa123]

We have some neighbours that have always been harmless enough, haven't really had much to do with them really, the woman has in the last little while got into a new relationship. He has 3 kids. They seem lovely children and my youngest child gets on with them very well. The problem is they constantly stand and watch over our garden fence!!!! They have a raised section that means they can look over our 6 ft fence without a problem or they drag over a toy etc to stand on. It drives our dog mad so she is constantly barking at them, and they tell her to stop, I can't stand it. I want to be able to walk around in my garden without them constantly popping up and watching. We have French doors in the back of the house and so they can see into the house so I can't walk around with my boobs out incase they are watching! I even saw the bloke a couple of weeks ago watching me as I hoovered, my DP thinks they are harmless and I shouldn't bother about it but they drive me mad!!!

Fuck me, I'd hate that.

8 ft fence with brambles?

YANBU.

'Don't tell the dog to stop barking please, it will make her worse. You need to get down from the fence and stop looking over, as it's upsetting her.'

'Hello yes can I help you? (hoover off, walk to fence) - were you looking for anything in particular?'

trellis.

Barbed wire going too far??

Otherwise yes, trellis and ivy!

Omg this is my situation. Can't enjoy the good weather in my back garden with ds as my neighbours kid just costs.standa and stares or worse still gives me a running commentary of.every thing I do. I can't stand it and dont know what to do to get her to go away.......

Go out to water the plants with the hose and accidentally soak them all?

The only thing you can do is put something up to block their view of you.

At the back of my house next door but one have raised decking in my garden and can see right into my garden. I put washing on the lines every day to get a bit of privacy 😂

But funnily enough, next doors kid climbs up the fence and stares at next door but one 😂 Her mum constantly tells her to stop and makes her go inside when she does it but the girl still climbs up and stares 😂

Raised decking in their garden not mine*

I've had kids on both sides shouting to each other across my garden.Fortunately, they were only visiting.

Barbed wire going too far?

Only if it's electrified.

I'd be having a word with your neighbour. Tell her you don't want them on the fence incase they break it. Let her know you'll be expecting her to cough up if they do break it.

Trellis. I'm doing the same for the same reason.

Have you seen Jurassic Park, OP?

Good fencing ideas on there.

Spoiler alert - doesn't work for dinosaurs, but may be okay for small children.

We have this. I put a retractable clothes line up in the problem area. If kids behave like this the line is pulled out and I throw a sheet over it to block them out.

I do like the hose suggestion.

Hang on, her new boyfriend has been watching you as well?! That is seriously creepy. Tbh, I would be straight with your neighbour and just say you want privacy in your own bloody garden and I would mention her new bloke looking in as well. She needs to make sure they ALL understand boundaries!

NotMore that's genius. Cheapest and fastest solution I've heard of yet!

It's so bloody rude to let kids do that op would drive me mad. Trellis abs mature shrubs will be worth the money.

Yes NotMore - that really is a brilliant idea!

Have you said anything to them 'oh she's barking because your hanging off the fence, if you stay away from the fence she doesn't bark'

Also some good planting shrubs like elderflower or similar height

Tell them to stop.
Tell the parent to tell them to stop.

Could always shout at them like I did... "will you stop looking over the fence! It's rude". Anyone with a bit of humility will feel embarrassed that someone had to tell their kids off.

Can't enjoy the good weather in my back garden with ds as my neighbours kid just costs.standa and stares or worse still gives me a running commentary of.every thing I do. I can't stand it and dont know what to do to get her to go away.......
The little girl next door to me stands in her front garden and tries to speak to me every time I leave the house.

Because of all the AS behaviour that her parents have inflicted on me, the police have advised me not to speak to any member of their household again.

When they used to shout and swear at me in the street I used to say to them "please leave me alone" and for that reason the police said they wouldn't take action because I was engaging with them.

Even so it makes me so sad that their little girl is so starved of attention that she stands there for hours at a time just desperate to have someone pay her some attention.

I had this problem before. Dependent on their age and personality, it doesn't matter if you talk to the parents or how much they tell them no, because as soon as their back is turned they will do it. Is it possible to get the fence raised?

How annoying.

Whilst you shouldn't have to, trellis would be the best idea.

In the meantime, if you see the bloke looking in I'd just stare back or ask if you can help them with anything.

I've had this problem in the past. I politely asked them to stop as I found it irritating and they stopped. Occasionally their friends do it and I sometimes ask them to stop.

I'm really good at chucking their balls back and they are really polite in return so everyone seems happy.