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Original poster

So is this really wrong or do they need to lighten up??

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user1492728351 · 18/06/2017 20:46

So last night my best mate from America came over to visit (her husband is American so she moved there). We all went out on the town with the girls unfortunately i had a little way too much to drink and on my way home to my flat i stopped to pee in the corner of our car park (it's hidden by some trees) wish i hadn't but i made a bad decision because i'd been drinking and i didn't think i was gonna make it home, however seems some of my neighbours heard (they're not part of the flats or live on the property, they just back onto it) and this afternoon they were complaining loudly so i could hear, so am i being irrational or are they making a big deal? Considering they're youngsters that hold parties that keep our residents up a lot of the time, i think it's hypocritical and it's the first and only time I've done it IMO

p.s. bring on the opinions i don't mind...

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Fruitcocktail6 · 18/06/2017 22:21

I've done it before (not recently) so I don't think YABU.

However, I don't understand how it's your property when it's a car park, why you bothered to wee outside when you were so close to your house, and what your friend visiting from the US has to do with the story?

MonkeylovesRobot · 18/06/2017 22:34

I hate the term illegal immigrants, I need to come up with a better term i feel comfortable using

MonkeylovesRobot · 18/06/2017 22:35

WT, Sorry!

VestalVirgin · 18/06/2017 22:40

I consider it disgusting when men do it, and while I do think double standards applied to public peeing are unfair, I'd rather no one do it than women starting to do it in a fight for equality.

Especially since you were so close to your house.

If you want to make a point, going topless at a pool is much more tasteful.

SprinklesandIcecream · 18/06/2017 22:45

YABU. Pissing anywhere where public may have to smell the stale piss next day is vile, be that male or female piss.

TheLambShankRedemption · 18/06/2017 23:02

If you haven't done it already, go out with a bucket of water with some dettol or equivalent and chuck it over where you went. At least it will stop the smell.

BertrandRussell · 18/06/2017 23:07

I do wonder why people get so ariated about a bit of pee..........

Floggingmolly · 18/06/2017 23:28

I wonder would you still say that if it was your fence people were pissing up against?

frogsgoladidahdidah · 18/06/2017 23:30

I wouldn't worry about it at all. Divvent sweat the small stuff, pet!

Ohyesiam · 18/06/2017 23:48

Can't believe how uptight some people are.

Original poster
user1492728351 · 19/06/2017 00:41

@TheLambShankRedemption Thanks did that already but they'll still probably complain because they seem like the type, funny because i'm the only one who actually sticks up for them when they have loud parties but not any more!
Thanks everyone you've been very kind, i feel silly worrying about this with everything going on the world - people have bigger problems!!

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TabascoToastie · 19/06/2017 14:20

I think it's vile, and no not everyone (and certainly not all men) do it. I am honestly shocked anyone thinks this is acceptable.

Maybe you live and socialise in very different circles from me but I've never urinated outside (obviously not counting camping, hiking, etc.) and I don't know anyone who ever has. Most people I know would find that very shocking and would wonder if the person doing it was an alcoholic. It's something I associate solely with tramps, alcoholics and young male chavs.

Twice last year one of my neighbours discovered someone had pissed against her front wall, and the police actually came out and interviewed everyone on the street to try to find the culprit. Which I do find laughably excessive (hi are there no real crimes?) - just making the point that it is not something that is widely considered acceptable. In some areas like in town centres it might be the norm, but in many places it is considered absolutely beyond the pale.

nina2b · 19/06/2017 14:22

Revolting behaviour. Ugh

nina2b · 19/06/2017 14:25

Yesterday 22:17 pickledonionspaceraider

I have been known to have a drunken wee in the street once or twice in the past

and anyone that finds it that shocking, I probably wouldn't be friends with anyway so wouldn't be bothered by their opinion

Life is for living, not for negatively judging folk for something so minor

On the street? Good God, do you have no pride?

Steeley113 · 19/06/2017 14:30

I've done way worse when drunk Grin don't worry about it. Drunken antics happen!

SamoyedSam · 19/06/2017 14:56

Nah..I don't think you were taking the piss you were giving it Wink

I can't seriously understand how people are getting their knickers in a twist over a bit of wee. Dogs go all the time outside, as do foxes etc. And anyone that reckons they can smell a one-off bit of piss on a pavement (as opposed to a spot where people regularly urinate) is either a liar or channelling Grenouille out of "Perfume: The Story of a Murderer".
There are many things in life that are "disgusting" (the cladding at Grenfell, the refugee crisis, or, even on a day-to-day level, people going out of their way to deliberately hurt, abuse or fuck over other people) so to apply that adjective to a lass caught short on a night out is petty in the extreme. And to the person who used the word "chavvy" you're a dickhead and there is a whole other thread on that topic where you can educate yourself!

SamoyedSam · 19/06/2017 14:59

@Janiston you're my hero of the day! I hope you really are 100 years old Grin ! Have all the Wine and lots of Cake !

Mollyboom · 19/06/2017 15:13

They need to lighten up

Mushypeasandchipstogo · 19/06/2017 15:28

I can honestly say that I have never had a wee on a street in my life and never would. I once dumped a boyfriend for doing a wee in the street when he had had too much to drink, but that's a whole other thread.......

SheSaidHeSaid · 19/06/2017 15:31

Putting aside whether what you did was right or wrong, you were on private land which isn't owned by those complaining. If you're a leaseholder and you own a share of the freehold you were technically pee-ing on your own land.

For future reference though, if you do need to pee al-fresco then going in bushes where it'll naturally drain away might be better than on the car park surface where it wont.

It definitely sounds like a tit for tat compaint.

LookMoreCloselier · 19/06/2017 18:35

If it was in the private carpark then it's not like a public place, so no it's not really wrong. I've peed outside in bushes plenty of times on a drunken walk home as I felt it was preferable to pissing my pants. I suspect they are making a point regarding the noise/antisocial behaviour and perhaps perceived double standards if they have been complained about.

Floggingmolly · 19/06/2017 19:38

Private land... Confused No, it's a car park shared between the residents of a block of flats. Not op's own rolling acres surrounding her country mansion.
She has no more right to piss all over it like a dog marking it's territory than she would have to piss in the shared lift.

Floggingmolly · 19/06/2017 19:39

Maybe you need to look to the amount you drink, LookMore; if you regularly can't make it home without pissing yourself.

TheNaze73 · 19/06/2017 19:39

Wouldn't bother me. Don't sweat it

GingerLucy · 19/06/2017 19:43

I would rather have a pee in public than be a goady on my high horse type.