We're currently living with my husband's parents after the death of my mum and us both being made redundant.
We got on the local housing register and were placed in a band c. We've had issues with fil taking over and trying to control our routine with dd. It's really affected me and has increased my panic attacks making them an almost daily thing.
I spoke to my new health visitor who wrote to the council and she also referred us to a local charity who wrote a letter to appeal our banding. This has had no sway with the council and we are to stay in this banding.
My husband has a job interview tomorrow that he is quite hopeful for and we have been discussing between ourselves about increasing our contribution to their bills. But, we have also decided that it is probably a good idea to save as much as possible for us to go into private rented asap.
Mil keeps harping on that there's no point in us going into private rented as we would never stand a chance at a council house then. And that if we can hang on for a council house we will be made. I keep telling her that in our current banding it could take us years and she says we can stay with them for as long as it takes. And she actually gets annoyed that we don't want to wait for a council house.
We need our own space asap as I'm really struggling. I don't feel like I can get a proper routine in place for dd and often feel like their wants have to come before my wishes as a parent just because we appreciate them keeping a roof over our heads.
How on earth do I get her to drop this? Social housing isn't a viable option for us and she just doesn't seem to get it