To be irrationally upset with DH

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For xmas DH bought tickets to see a band in London, also booked a one night hotel stay in a place we've stayed before so I know its nice. I was extremely happy and grateful and have been looking forward to it for ages.
Now, DH has a habit of being a bit incompetent with arranging things but he reckons I'm too controlling so Ive sat back and not even looked at the arrangements as I know the place he's booked is good.
So, I ask if hes printed out the hotel booking ready for our travel next weekend and he hasn't so I said send it to my phone so I can print it out in work.
I look at the booking and hes only gone and booked a bloody twin room!!! I'm fucking tamping!!
We've got two teens at home and paper thin bedroom walls so any privacy and sex is very infrequent as it is. (I must add we arent loud but always on pins as the kids are always wandering around on the landing at all hours and they never go anywhere either to give us time alone).
I was so looking forward to this trip, I also find out hes booked just room only so no nice breakfast to look forward to either.
Im in work and ive actually gone to the loo and cried in disappointment which seems ridiculous, ive text DH raging and he is sorry but I'm fucked off with his sheer incompetence to do anything properly.
Is this an overreaction as at the moment I feel like telling him not to bother to go at all.

Have either of you called the hotel? Often, even at the cheaper end of the market (which we're usually in!) a twin room can be two double beds. If not, just ask if they can move the beds for you, assuming they are too booked up to give you a different room.

Just order breakfast when you get there. Or if you can say what part of London the hotel is in, I might be able to suggest somewhere to go? If you're worried about parking etc, just get an Uber.
It's fine OP.

I thought the problem might be something like your dh booking the wrong date. The issues you mention are minor and fixable, OP. Your dh has bought you a lovely gift.

I totally get it, OP.

Does he have a job? I wonder if 'near enough is good enough' there.

Poor pet, he can't be expected to think of everything, can he? That's your job.

YANBU, OP. I completely understand and sympathise. I think a lot of posters have missed the point about what it is that's actually upsetting you. Suggest you use their advice to salvage an enjoyable night away but also redirect some energy you would habitually use for sorting out your DH's fuckups to thinking about what you want out of your marriage and how to discuss this constructively with him. The saddest bit of your OP is that you've apparently internalised his criticisms of you as 'controlling', which imo is a classic way of sulking when caught out not bothering to do things properly/accurately/at all.

Can I just point out out that if you are likely to be hung over the following morning, you may still be over the limit for driving. Being arrested for DUI would be a terrible end to what I'm sure will be an enjoyable break.

As everyone else has pretty much said, twin beds and no booked breakfast shouldn't be a big enough deal to stop you having a good time.

I totally understand why your disappointed but it definitely seems like an over reaction. From his point of view, he's likely tried to do something nice and your reaction is probably telling him not to try again because he'll likely get it wrong. I think there are more constructive ways to get your point across without throwing the gesture back in his face.

However, it does sound like this isn't an isolated incident which does change the dynamics of your reaction. There might be history which legitimises your reaction but if it's simply that it's been a while and your expectations weren't met, you're being harsh.

If it's a small hotel near a venue he might not have had the choice in the first place. He might have just misread the website and automatically booked the cheapest room. Who knows? It was a genuine (and small, in the grand scheme of things) mistake and one easily fixed by pushing said twin beds together and asking at reception if you can have breakfast.

Also if you're intending on having plenty of booze then a) you're optimistic thinking a ride will defo be on the cards, and b) if you have to take a bit of time to walk and have a leisurely meal before driving then all the better. Hotel breakfasts are normally done and dusted by 11am at the latest.

I can't believe if you're in London you'd rather have breakfast in a hotel than go find a cool new restaurant or brunch place. It's London, the choice is endless. I'm well jel!!!!

Yanbu.

He can't even manage to book a hotel room properly and has the nerve to call you controlling when you try to pre-empt his fuck-ups?

Also, tamping in one of my favourite slang words. I didn't realize it was only a Welsh thing.