I'm so angry at my neighbour.

[helbel34]

We have had neighbours for the last 2 years the dh works away and is only home every couple of weeks. My dh and myself have socialized with the wife. E.g. drinks in the garden, and I have invited her in when I have had friends over. Tbh I have not really clicked with her but I felt bad that she was on her own.

So the issue is a couple of weeks ago my dh was downstairs late at night I was on bed, my neighbour knocked on our back window to ask if she could borrow a cigarette and proceeded to stay in my house for two hours what do you think.

"Is her nsme sharron and was there a wasp involved? did she divorce her dh for t rexing in asda?"

Eh? Please elaborate, TheoriginalLEM: I'm really curious now!

Did she light a portable barbecue on your expensive shared flooring decking?

Hilda not every woman who talks to a married man is a husband stealing hussy. Maybe they enjoy each others company. I often chat with the man across the road, sometimes for a couple of hours. We're both married.

For a couple of hours in the middle of the night while his wifes asleep? I think it's obvious. You don't cross those boundaries with your neighbours.

My (male) friend got friendly with his neighbour because they had shared interests (mainly cooking and gardening). One evening when my friend came home from work, there was a very irate man at his door. It was his neighbour's Husband demanding to know why he was spending so much time with his wife and were they having an affair?
FRIEND: "You are being ridiculous. Your wife is lovely but we share nothing more than past times"
The Husband insisted he wouldn't be fobbed off.
FRIEND (smiles) : "Have you met the other man who lives here?"
NDN: "No"
FRIEND: "Well, he travels a lot with work so I'll introduce you some time. He is my Husband."
NDN blushes, mutters a half baked apology and they agree to forget about it.

Op talk to your husband about it instead of worrying. I'm sure there has been a misunderstanding.

Bs Defuz; and it doesn't make this any less inappropriate. The ops husband isn't gay, neither is the female neighbour who is massively overstepping boundaries.

""Her problem is a husband who is enjoying the attention and pandering to this 'lonely' woman who's seeking his attention""

I agree with the above.

Also the disrespect to you, by your DH, in that you had to be up early for work.

Have you and your DH drifted apart whilst he's been working away?

You going after her is completely the wrong target.

Careful OP! eyes in the back of your head time.
Your DH already has enough 'conversation' to forget the clock.

I'd be angry with her, knocking on the window at 1:30am and staying for 2 hours is not appropriate.

I'd be much more concerned about DH and his boundaries.

If you were her husband you wouldnt like her talking to another man?

Been here and he was shagging the neighbour... Everyone told me I was overreacting...

If her husband was away then who was looking after her children for the 2 hours?

You've missed my point Hilda and are quite rude. I never suggested that Op's husband or ndn is gay but it was wasted paranoia to worry about his wife having an affair with her ndn just because they had something in common. You are determined that Op's husband is playing away. The op should talk to her husband about her insecurities and worries.

Why didn't you speak to your DH about it at the time?
I would not want my DH, or anybody else, telling who I am/am not allowed to speak to.

Why have you waited 2 weeks to post about it?

Who are you annoyed with? DH or neighbour? The time to raise it with DH was surely then?! 2hr seems a long time but do not trust him?

She wasn't visiting her neighbours husband. She was visiting her neighbour.

Neighbour is a strange word when you've read it a hundred times on one thread.

Jeez, what is it with people unable to say 'No' or set boundaries??
No wonder some people have hopeless lives.