Obviously not in a literal sense. Me and dh have had some issues recently, issues that almost mirror issues my parents had when they were younger. Both situations were caused by my dad and dh making a very similar marital mistake. My mum commented that it was like watching history repeat itself. It got me thinking about how similar they are. My dh and my dad are both outgoing and social butterflies. People take to them both instantly and are very warm towards them. My mum and I are a little more reserved. My mum is lovely, but is a little shy in social situations and has always let's my dad take the lead. I'm not shy, but, as part of a couple, I'm the quieter one. This always led to people perceiving my mum as standard off-ish or cold until people get to know her. I feel like my dhs colleagues and friends view me in the same way. People always bang on about how lovely my dh is, and he is, but he is also needy, immature and a little self centred. Much like my dad. The neighbours chat away to dh whereas I just get a greeting despite always being smiley and polite. I haven't always got the confidence to strike up a conversation but I think I'm friendly. I'm well liked amongst my own friends and colleagues as well as dhs family, but in new social situations I always feel like people think dh is fabulous and can't quite work out why we are together. My mum has always felt the same. It's weird isn't it? To have married a man so similar to my dad? I don't know how it even happened. They obviously have their differences too but I when I was moaning to my mum and she laughed and said 'you've married your father' I just felt a bit 'oh shit!' Anyone else?