To ask people to stop swearing so much

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Frankly, the language of some of the posters on this site is disgusting and I wonder if they talk like this in front of their children. I also wonder if their parents would be proud of how they post on the internet. Swearing every time isn't big and it isn't clever. It makes people come across as uneducated chavs.

AIBU to ask people to clean up their act and stop swearing?

Jassy
Exactly.

Dont come on an adult forum insulting everyone then expect them to do as you demand!

I agree, @JassyRadlett - and have said as much on this thread and many of the other similar ones.

Actually, I think it is extremely rude and entitled to join a busy, thriving website (or any other sort of group, frankly), which is running perfectly well the way it is, and start insisting that it changes to suit your preferences.

I'm in a chamber choir - we sing mainly classical works, with some arrangements of more popular type songs. If a new member joined, and immediately started saying they hated classical music, and wanted us to sing just barbershop, for example, no-one would entertain such nonsense, and they would be told that we are not a barbershop group, and if that's what they want to sing, they should find (or start) a barbershop choir.

Coming onto MN, and saying we should all stop swearing, is not that different, imo.

Ds1 (23) is a total petrolhead. Some years ago, he joined a website for similarly internal-combustion-engine-obsessed people - and it has always amused me that they have swear filter (like Netmums) - whilst we were allowed to use whatever sweary words we wanted!

I believe we are all adults here, and don't need prissy moderation.

Reclaiming unpleasant words!? Hahaha

How exactly do you "reclaim" an offensive term when all you do is use it potentially to offend others?
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Answers on a postcard...

Reclaiming words?

And we can't stop men using words for our anatomy as an insult until we stop doing it ourselves. We're not "reclaiming" it, we're just supporting their misogyny

I strongly disagree, using the word cunt ourselves reminds folks that we are so much more than our cunts, so much more than breeders

Because you don't want to come across as a fucking cunt now, do you?

Bit of a contradiction going on here.

I'd think it's okay to note that you don't like habitual swearing

Yep you're absolutely right. It is totally ok to note that.

What isn't okay is to suggest posters who swear are thick, use horrible deorgatory and offensive terms and suggest then need some "quiet introspection" because that's just a bit fucking condescending isn't it?

The issue belongs totally to those who dislike swearing - they either ignore, or remove themselves but don't be arrogant enough to try and police other people's posting on a forum of adults.

Really nina? You can't think that it's okay for me to use the term cunt if I so choose, whether I use it in a descriptive manner or whether I choose to use it as an insult?

Why do you regard it as an offensive term? Who made it so?

That wouldn't fit on a postcard.

And on that, i think nina2b has firmly identified herself as a GF rather than someone interested in an actual discussion.

Almost disappointing, but not at all surprising.

This thread was a deliberate GF thread.
I mean, with the "what would your parents think" thing, and disappearing OP.

Completely silly.
But quite good fun, too!

You can't think that it's okay for me to use the term cunt if I so choose, whether I use it in a descriptive manner or whether I choose to use it as an insult?

To me there seems to 2 irreconcilable uses. It is being used in the attempt to reclaim it in a "I'm making a very definite feminist statement way" much in the same way some gay men use "queer" or even "poof" but at the same time using it as an insult.

Gay men might use "queer" about themselves but it is not used as a catch all, gender neutral insult the way cunt is used on here.

Why do you regard it as an offensive term? Who made it so?

Is that a serious question? What makes any word or name offensive? Presumably the fact that it is appropriated and used with the intention to offend or insult. It gets used enough here as an insult. Who made the n word offensive? Who turned gay into an insult?

Nah.

Soz.

You fuckers still here?

Lass, I am well aware of most of the nuances surrounding so called taboo language, I was just interested in nina's rude dismissal of my earlier post.

So. Society decide which are 'good'words and which are 'bad'.

If it's OK to say cake, why not cunt? There are three letters different. It is only a word. I actually quite like the word cunt and have reclaimed it in a feminist fashion.

If we are banning words

I suggest we begin with tabloid. Daily mail. Mumsy.

But not penis beaker or cockwomble.

We can ban words referring to racism. That I will allow

You may come to me if you require more wise words (pun fully intended)

I don't recall suggesting banning words.

I actually quite like the word cunt and have reclaimed it in a feminist fashion - except huge numbers of other posters use it as an insult aimed at mainly, although not exclusively, men. How do you square that with your feminist appropriation?

"cockwomble" annoys me. It doesn't mean anything. It is another MN hackneyed favourite phrase like "judgy pants" "fanjo" "are you on glue?" ( although these seen to have run their course)

I love the word cunt.

Using it is like an adventure. You'll either get a high-five from fellow cunters or a horrified expression from an anti-cunter like you've just shit on their dog. Never any in between. Always unpredictable. Love it.

Uneducated chavs????
FFS
Get a fucking grip

Using it is like an adventure. You'll either get a high-five from fellow cunters or a horrified expression from an anti-cunter like you've just shit on their dog. Never any in between. Always unpredictable.*

In real life if I hear anyone, male or female, using it my reaction is going to vary from avoiding the person if it is being used in a threatening or aggressive way, especially if accompanied by alcohol to thinking "trying a little too hard to impress/shock"

OvariesBeforeBrovaries

I agree with that. Although personally I have only used the word fuck (not cunt) to occasionally take a temperature check.

There is an interesting point in some conversation where judicial use of the word actually becomes inclusive, rather than exclusive.

You have to be far surer of your audience to use the word cunt, but the theory works the same.

In real life if I hear anyone, male or female, using it my reaction is going to vary from avoiding the person if it is being used in a threatening or aggressive way, especially if accompanied by alcohol to thinking "trying a little too hard to impress/shock"

How... limiting.

Pretty sure these threads are just created by people with a fetish for the swears.

Oh dear, I'm a 58 year old retired lecturer with no need to impress, Lass.

As has been pointed out, if you're avoiding people for using the dysphemic, you are rather limiting yourself.

www.indy100.com/article/british-swear-words-ranked-ofcom-7340446

Interesting how some of these have been ranked!