To never say anything again

[Mrsmadevans]

I was paying at the till this morning while a little boy about 3 -4 yrs old was continuously climbing & jumping off the bag packing shelf. He jumped off and landed on his back. I was very alarmed and turned to his mum and said very nicely 'your little boy is going to hurt himself jumping off there', OMG if I did she called me everything, she even said 'well he will learn then won't he when he hurts himself?' I said 'that is not the point you are his mother and supposed to be looking after him'. She said 'what is it to do with you anyway?' . I said 'it's to do with everybody because it is a child at risk of hurting himself'. It was worse than that but I won't go on , I had no one supporting me in there and no one else said anything they just put their heads down and carried on as if it wasn't happening. I just feel like what is the point in getting involved. I will just stfu in future. The shop assistant didn't say anything either ......what is the matter with people?

dead, I made clear in that same comment that I thought what the boy was doing wasn't safe and that sometimes we need to speak up when that is the case, and that op perhaps didn't phrase her words well. PP have given great examples of what she could have said to extend a helping hand instead of combative declarations. Look back at what she said, she started off on the wrong foot and it spiraled downward from there. She has decided though that she has no need of examining her own way of phrasing and that she is right and correct down to the last jot.

I take second place to no one when it comes to putting child safety above feelings and egos My husband and son both get exasperated at me on a regular basis for repeating safety guidelines and they get sick of hearing it so please, no lectures needed from you on top of my own lectures haha! I also have eagle eyes when I'm around other children. If you knew me, you would tell me to lighten up with the safety. It's all in how you phrase these things to other parents. Yes, of course safety comes first. But have some sense in how you put forth your helpful advice.

LittleBeautyBelle sorry I wasn't taking issue with your comment in particular - but your phrase (the one I quoted) neatly summed up an attitude that has been echoed by many others on this thread. Not personal.

It's ok, thanks, DeadGood I see what you're saying, and I do agree with you

I think "try parenting your offspring, you fucking lazy cunt" would have covered it quite well

OP, next time you see a child climbing on the bag packing shelf take a bag and put it over their head, tying it tightly. The parent may then decide to notice their child and you can look innocent while saying "but it's the bag packing shelf - I was helping you pack your belongings".
Failing that give the child a good hard slap to knock them off the shelf. It's a shelf for packing food, not a sodding climbing frame.

God it's irritating to here parents justify why they can't bloody parent their kids. I'm not interested in 'perhaps she had told him ten times already' or 'she may of had a shit day'. He was 3 ! Not 13. Not doing as he's told ? Pick him up and prevent the behaviour. Stop being wet ! It's your responsibility to keep your child safe.
When children end up hurt for whatever reason you will always here people say 'we were worried about little Johnny... parents didn't seem to care/have a clue. ' but do they say anything until it's too late.

Good on you OP. Don't give a stuff about feckless parents. Keep doing what you're doing..

Thank you all for the comments. I didn't think many people would reply tbh . I appreciate every one of them even the haters lol. I don't tend to be outspoken but children seem to be my spark by the look of it . I remember speaking out to the consultant on the ward when he refused to see a child and their mum because she was 10 mins late for the appt. This mum had to catch 2 buses and had 4 children to look after, he was horrible to me and point blank refused .I tried everything to get him to look at the little one, in the end she just went home and took responsibility for her child herself. I have never forgiven him for that. I suppose my job makes me the way I am. I would love to know what my work colleagues would have done !