DH banging on about me having a boys haircut

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I'm a nurse and DH has made the discovery that anyone above band 5 in the NHS has boy hair. Obviously I've told him this is nonsense but he says he's never witnessed a band 6 or above have a feminine cut.

Anyway I've just applied for a band 6 job and he's banging on and on about me needing to get a hair cut to have a man's style. He won't discuss anything else, whenever I mention the interview he just goes back to the haircut thing. I even heard him on the phone saying I have a job interview so will be booking an appointment at the salon. MIL agrees with him!!!

AIBU to be finding this tiresome? A bit of support would be nice.

Does her mean this kind of boy hair?

How odd. Until I had read your update re the hair gel going on the shopping list, I had thought it was probably just gentle marital teasing. However he's like a dog with a bone, it seems. Have you asked him why he's being so persistent with a joke that you don't find funny? is everything else brilliant (or even just ok) in the relationship?

Is he quite well? Are you likely to wake up in the morning surrounded by cut hair all over your pillow?

How does he know how to spot a band six nurse in a crowd?

I suppose he does not realize he comes across as an ignorant dimwit.

The 3 ladies in my department who are all band 6 and above, have long hair

Obviously, it's not about the hair. I hope you get to the bottom of it.

Fwiw, my mother used to ask me to cut my hair. I eventually realised it was jealousy.

I think someone's pulling our leg here

He seems to think he has made some witty or astute discovery and is trying to milk it for all its worth.

Which is a shame because it isn't worth much.

Either ignore completely til he bores even himself, or tell him that he is being really tiresomely sexist in calling it boy hair / making non-stop comments about women's hair / and implying that your job dictates your hair and vice versa.

Or buy him a wig that looks most like a 'boring fart' wig, and say people who carry on like him always have this hair. A Bad Combover wig, maybe.

Could be, LittleGreenPear.

Could be.

Well I'd be keeping the hair.

I might be reconsidering the husband.

A very odd thing for him to think. Isn't the rule for nurses that it shouldn't touch the collar?
When I was a nurse everyone (female ) had different hairstyles and lengths, from waist length to shaved bald. Obviously it had to be neat and out of the way.
There was also the odd male nurse with longish hair as well.
Not sure about the grades though,I suppose that makes a big difference
I would just point out to him that there isn't really such a thing as 'boy hair' and 'girl hair' , and if there was it wouldn't affect the work.

WTF ?

Are you serious? He has actually told your MIL about this and added hair gel to the shopping list?? WFT is he on about!

What an arsehole your husband is.

And what the hell is "boy hair" anyway? Other, than the obvious - hair which a boy has.

I am a woman with short hair - an undercut. It's just hair, but if anyone insisted on qualifying it then it would be "this woman's hair".

What? WTF is a 'boys haircut'? Does he know that some boys have long hair? Or does he live under a rock?

I took him to a presentation and he was correctly able to point out all the band 6s and 7s so from that he's come to the conclusion that that's what it takes to climb the ladder in the NHS.

This is a joke...right?

Can I ask what your DH does for a living given that he apparently quite seriously bases his judgement of senior NHS staff on their hair?

I'm kind of hoping it's not anything that requires any intellectual rigour or depth?

Let's all hope so Kinky

He's an engineer. At his place then men have to have short hair apart from the apprentices who are allowed longer hair. No women work there so maybe that's why he doesn't get it.

I'm a band 8b and I have long feminine hair - what a strange comment for your DH to make!

Is he andrew wakefield?

Makes a general observation and then carries on as if it's fact?

I really can't fathom how any adult would genuinely think that hair has anything to do with the job. And if its fact as he thinks, ot should be in the role profile.

It's probable that band 6+ is more senior, therefore older, and older women do tend to have shorter hair. You see threads on here about 40+ women who seem to think they have to cut their hair now they're older.

I'm Band 7 with long hair btw.

So the apprentices are male? As in boys? And they are allowed to have long hair? Erm, does your DH get out of the office at all?

All of the band 7's in my department have long hair apart from 1 so he is definitely wrong and weird

Has he recently suffered a knock to the head or some sort of neurological condition? He sounds like an absolute moron, carrying on a joke because he can see it's irritating you. My dad does this.

I'm friends with several long haired, female (highly qualified) engineers.