DH banging on about me having a boys haircut

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I'm a nurse and DH has made the discovery that anyone above band 5 in the NHS has boy hair. Obviously I've told him this is nonsense but he says he's never witnessed a band 6 or above have a feminine cut.

Anyway I've just applied for a band 6 job and he's banging on and on about me needing to get a hair cut to have a man's style. He won't discuss anything else, whenever I mention the interview he just goes back to the haircut thing. I even heard him on the phone saying I have a job interview so will be booking an appointment at the salon. MIL agrees with him!!!

AIBU to be finding this tiresome? A bit of support would be nice.

Does he realise he's saying that senior women need to style and dress like men?

It's not a joke, he's dead serious and has added hair gel to the ASDA online shop saying I'll need it for my interview.

well that's really weird. what kind of haircut do you have now?

It is kind of supportive clutching at straws as he obviously thinks this is a prerequisite and might hold you back from a promotion.

I know lots of band 6 with "feminine" hair though, so he is wrong.

Eh? I know lots of band 6s and 7s with 'feminine' hair. He sounds a lit odd, OP.

What a wanker, did you have a bad moment in taste when you met him
Please show him this thread.

Add a set of curlers to the online shopping and when he asks why say that you cant have to two men of the house so he had better start with his shampoo and sets.

Band 6 Senior Psychology Therapist here. I have v long hair. Your partner is a twat.

As a PP said, will this mean that you out earn him or will be higher up the ladder in your career than he will be in his?

Curlers aside, a bloody great row would have happened in this house already. Once it is a lame joke, twice it is annoying, three is shit storm time.

Your partner is a twat

Is his hair short and curly...?

"has added hair gel to the ASDA online shop"

Does he think this is some kind of ballet exam?

Does he often have quite fixed ideas?

Tell him that Band 6 and above get wig vouchers as part of their remuneration package

I am a band 7 with blonde bobbed hair. What an utter bizarre thing to say....

If he's not normally like this then I would say

a) He's a twat
b) He's jealous

If he's normally like this then I think the above still applies

Does he think he's funny?

I literally don't get why he's doing this.

I'm still at WTF???

Are you a bloke with long hair and he and Mil think you should have a more traditional haircut?
Or is he threatened by your promotion?

There are a lot of Playmobil heads across all walks of life. He sounds a bit odd

My whole office of band 6/7 have long blonde hair except me, I'm growing out a pixie cut so currently sporting a mop. What a strange thing to be obsessed with

He's jealous and deep down he doesn't want you going for the job?

Either way, he's very odd and I don't think you've been hard enough on him about it. A simple eff off said in the right tone of voice might do the trick.

Well he might need
1- to actually check his facts. Is having short hair REALLY a thing once you get a certain level? I doubt so
2- Remember that you certainly do not have to follow like a sheep.
3- if he thinks that the hair cut is going to be the one significant point in your interview, he is deluded.

Serioulsy, its weird.

Is no one laughing (surprise, surprise!) so he's repeating it ad nauseam until they do?

He sounds weirdly obsessed by it-does he need help?

I'm guessing it's something to do with you trying to get on career wise?

Please dont tell me he is able to then have a go at you and your haircut if you dont get the job :(

I'm a band 6 data manager I have long hair lol

What a strange man.

maybe its his thing......boy hair......