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To not like the cat

60 replies

Strawberryshortcake40 · 09/06/2017 00:37

Have had issues with him before. Basically the vets think he has dementia/OCD and could only advise PTS if he gets worse.

He is currently the cat from hell. This evening he has yowled continuously and goes between banging the kitchen door and then whacking the cat flap open over and over with his paw. He's woken both DC up already a few times this evening.

Not only that but today I went to get some important papers out of the big bowl they are in on my kitchen worktop to find they were all soaking wet where he had pissed in the bowl.

Seriously I do my best with him but I truly dislike him right now. AIBU??

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nina2b · 09/06/2017 00:43

How very nasty to say those things. Your cat is clearly distressed. Help it instead of hating it. Grrrr

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Strawberryshortcake40 · 09/06/2017 00:45

I said not like. Not hate. Did you not read where I said the vet has said the only option is to PTS if he gets worse?

I have tried to help him, he is given lots of attention and food etc. How exactly do I reason with a cat who pisses on paperwork?

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TamzinGrey · 09/06/2017 00:46

Please please please get him tested for hyperthyroidism. Poor kitty.

avamiah · 09/06/2017 00:48

No,not really.haha as we have 3 cats,2 of them we rescued and they bloody annoy me all the time but we still love them.

IHeartKingThistle · 09/06/2017 00:48

We had a cat with dementia. It's not that easy nina, it's relentless and there's nit much you can do.

Op the only thing that helped ours a bit was getting her an igloo bed (she'd always refused beds before) so she could feel secure and not get lost so much at night. We also had to go back to a litter tray after years of her being an outside cat. It's hard though and she did end up being PTS.

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Strawberryshortcake40 · 09/06/2017 00:48

He's had every test there is. He had a rta last year which they think damaged his brain somehow and also that he's inbred which is the root of the dementia. It's just not easy to live with his behaviour.

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Strawberryshortcake40 · 09/06/2017 00:49

He won't use a litter tray, instead goes out and yowls continuously leading to complaints from the neighbours.

Tried different beds, he just paces all night.

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IHeartKingThistle · 09/06/2017 00:49

*not much.

Oh yes, ours was on thyroid tablets too. Helped with the over grooming but not the yowling.

DramaAlpaca · 09/06/2017 00:54

I'm sorry to say this but he sounds like a very unhappy cat and for his sake I would seriously be considering PTS. I don't want to upset anyone and I know it's a hard decision but that's what I'd do.

avamiah · 09/06/2017 00:55

Strawberry,
On a lighter note,
You want to have my mother live with you.😬, she's 80 and thinks my house is a Hotel, not 5 star but 3 at a push she said.
I'll take your cat anytime .

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Strawberryshortcake40 · 09/06/2017 00:55

That's what the vet told me six months ago. But he rallied a bit. And now he's worse again.

It's just the thought of it. Of making that decision.

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Headinthedrawer · 09/06/2017 00:56

I'm sure from your description that you realise that your cat is ill. I"m also sure that you are aware that you cannot "reason" with any animal well or not. From your description it sounds like your cat is very distressed.Please take it to a vet and in the meantime google his symptoms and do everything you can to keep him calm.Poor cat.

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Strawberryshortcake40 · 09/06/2017 00:56

avamiah, would she piss on my paperwork? If not I'm happy to swap.

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avamiah · 09/06/2017 00:57

How old is your cat?

Headinthedrawer · 09/06/2017 00:59

Sorry-you updated as I wrote.You have obviously had him checked by the vet already and are doing everything you can .

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Strawberryshortcake40 · 09/06/2017 00:59

He's nine and a half. Had him since a kitten.

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DramaAlpaca · 09/06/2017 01:00

Strawberry in the nicest possible way, when a pet is suffering it's no longer about your feelings, it's about what's best for your poor puss. There's a saying I've read on here a lot - better a day too soon than a week too late, and it is right, it really is.

I don't know if you've ever had to have a pet PTS before, but IME they slip away very gently and it's nothing like as bad as you think it might be.

Good luck with your decision Flowers

avamiah · 09/06/2017 01:00

Strawberry ,
Put it this way my washing machine is on 24 hours.haha

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Strawberryshortcake40 · 09/06/2017 01:02

The noise is horrendous. He's a oriental breed so very noisy anyway. But the cat flap banging is a new stroke of genius from him I will admit.

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Strawberryshortcake40 · 09/06/2017 01:04

No I've never had a pet PTS. I have horrendous luck with pets and they usually die somehow before that ever becomes an option!

Just seems cruel when physically he's well. I think it's harder because my DD is very ill currently with a mental illness (so needs sleep!) yet he has that type of illness and I face the prospect of choosing not to keep him. If that makes sense?

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avamiah · 09/06/2017 01:05

Strawberry,
Only you know if he is in pain.
I know he's bloody annoying but do you think he is suffering?
That's the question.

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Strawberryshortcake40 · 09/06/2017 01:08

I don't think hes in physical pain, no. Although he doesn't look "right", his coat is all bristly not smooth and he is thin.

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20nil · 09/06/2017 01:13

How old is he? My beloved cat had dementia and though I resisted, in the end I had to put her to sleep. I still miss her.

DramaAlpaca · 09/06/2017 01:15

You could try posting about your puss in the Litter Tray, there are lots of posters there who really know about cats and you might get some more good advice there.

Sorry your DD is unwell, hope she recovers soon. I understand, one of my DC has gone through similar Flowers

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Strawberryshortcake40 · 09/06/2017 01:19

I tried on there before when he was ill but the general consensus seemed to be I should love him and put up with whatever his behaviour is like, even to the detriment of my DC (who he bites occasionally).

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