To not like the cat

[Strawberryshortcake40]

Have had issues with him before. Basically the vets think he has dementia/OCD and could only advise PTS if he gets worse.

He is currently the cat from hell. This evening he has yowled continuously and goes between banging the kitchen door and then whacking the cat flap open over and over with his paw. He's woken both DC up already a few times this evening.

Not only that but today I went to get some important papers out of the big bowl they are in on my kitchen worktop to find they were all soaking wet where he had pissed in the bowl.

Seriously I do my best with him but I truly dislike him right now. AIBU??

Thank you, that helps.

No he's never been a chilled cat. In the last year we have moved to a much smaller house with a lot of cats in the area. He had the accident meaning he was on cage rest for a month (which he did not deal well with). And his "brother" ran off back to the old house so he has no feline friend here. It's been a rough year for him and think has aided the decline.

I've just backed away from a pts decision because our cat is old, has health problems including dementia but he is happily eating, purring and even potters outside for 10 minutes minutes. He had been deteriorating but the vet gave him a steroid injection and he's perked up no end - he's 17. Your cat sounds very unhappy and I think it would be the kindest thing to pts.

Strawberry, I didn't realise cats could get dementia and mine is 9 and rescued and I don't know if his behaviour is normal or if he's gone a bit mad too. He seems very similar to yours although mine chose a rather lovely large plant in the living room to piss in and scatter the contents. He actually has destroyed the small amount of furniture I have, pulls up carpets when you don't let him in quick enough & howls so loudly I'm surprised I haven't had complaints. If I put planters on the walls around my garden he knocks them over, breaks all the existing plants, occasionally pissing/shitting in them too for good measure. He knocked over and broke a beautiful lamp, plucked the bejasus out of a new chair (claws been trimmed regularly) that had replaced the old one he destroyed. Basically it's all avoidable stuff, in that my house isn't cluttered, it's like he chooses to knock things over. He is outside regularly, is neutered, vet says he's healthy. Drives me mad and when you think there's nothing left to destroy...well think again, he will find something. All the damage has been done in a short time frame, he is remarkably proficient. I have a love hate relationship with him. Can't imagine getting him PTS but I feel your pain.

Strawberry - if you do decide the time is right to PTS (and only you can decide this), please don't feel guilty. Although you will no longer have to deal with the cat's behaviour, it's not like you're doing this as a lifestyle choice - you are doing this for that cat's sake and quality of life. Ok physical health doesn't necessarily translate into a good quality of life.

I really feel for you - it's so, so difficult. If only you could speak 'cat' for the day and ask him if he is happy and what you should do. But sadly, you can't, and so you have to make the tough decisions about what is right for him.

It sounds like you are having a tough year too, so please be kind to yourself and give yourself a break.

My mums lovely black cat had this, the yowling was horrendous, 5 or 6 hours a night (the neighbours could hear him through thecwalls!). He had thyroid problems too, the medication helped a bit but not totally. He was about 16 when it happened.
In the end, we did have him pts. He was miserable, barely ate, peed everywhere, couldn't settle, never went out (and he used to love his garden). He lost a lot of weight and sometimes looked at us to say "help me". We tried everything, Feliway, tablets, a quiet room for him, fresh salmon, everything.
It was heartbreaking, but he was suffering so much and was a shadow of his former self.

OP, PTS. His life isn't good for him and it isn't good for you. You will cry. You will feel like a louse whenever you think of it. But it's the way forward.

The yowling and poor coat scream thyroid issues but vet has ruled this out. He does sound very distressed and unhappy. PTS might be the kindest option. Sorry you are facing this dilemma.

I don't have a cat OP, but I have a dog (who was rejected at birth and we hand reared her). She's now 7, and we absolutely adore her. I have to say if she was going through any medical problems, that was causing her great stress, I would seriously considering PTS. I think it's in the best interest of your cat that you see the vet again, and discuss PTS. Sorry your cat is going through this OP

I would PTS and I say that as a cat owner/ lover. He sounds utterly miserable.

Don't let your cat suffer. I know the decision to PTS is an awful one and nine is still quite young for a cat, but he's obviously miserable, poor thing.