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To think that its wrong to exclude a toddler from toddler group

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twobabies · 19/03/2007 15:04

I go to a toddler group on Fridays and last week there was an incident with one of the toddlers I think shes just under two. She had been playing and another child took the toy she had been playing with and she tapped him on the arm. Another child then came and tried to take it and she hit him too. I have never seen this child hit before and she is quite a popular member of the group. The mum of this girl got up told her daughter off and made her cuddle both other children she then apoligised to the other mums and took her child away to a quite part of the room. When she came back to join us the leader of the group came over to her and in front of about 4 other mums told her that there was a "behaviour policy" in the group that if a child hit more than twice they would be asked to leave.... The mum seemed quite embarrased and I was quite embarrased for her. She had done everything she could after the incident and the leader acknowledged that these things do happen but that it was to "stop bad feeling between parents". She then went on to add that "this was only the second time that she had had to tell a mother this and that the first one had started crying, left the group and never came back! This mum then quietly left 10mins later. So do you think I am being unreasonable in thinking that this is a ridiculous policy for a toddler group to have? or is this quite common? I would love to know what you would have done had this been you as the mum seemed quite embarrased and then left. By the way this is my first post so hi to all as well!!!

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Tundrawells · 09/08/2022 12:29

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rainbowandglitter · 09/08/2022 12:30

ZOMBIE THREAD!!
How do these zombie threads keep coming up? This toddler is now 18!

drawacircleroundit · 09/08/2022 12:34

The toddlers tried to take her toy away.
If I was a parent of one of those toddlers I’d be more than happy if DC got a little “fuck off” tap, and I’d step in and ask that the girl wasn’t asked to leave.
I’d take my child and leave instead, to teach them that they’re not the centre of the universe.
Poor lady.

drawacircleroundit · 09/08/2022 12:35

Oh, ffs - yes, 🧟‍♂️

JustJoinedRightNow · 09/08/2022 12:36

rainbowandglitter · 09/08/2022 12:30

ZOMBIE THREAD!!
How do these zombie threads keep coming up? This toddler is now 18!

Its Tundrawells, this is at least the 6th thread I’ve seen where they’ve resurrected threads from 2007. I’ve reported

rainbowandglitter · 09/08/2022 12:37

Do you think it's deliberate? Not sure how to report a poster.

Hoppinggreen · 09/08/2022 12:37

It’s ridiculous
My (very ancient) memories of playgroup/toddler group were that too often people with genuinely violent dc WEREN'T asked to leave!!
We all just watched and whisked our Dc out of the way if it looked like it would kick off

Hoppinggreen · 09/08/2022 12:38

In fact when this thread was created I probably did go to Toddler Groups!!

Lovetogarden2022 · 09/08/2022 12:40

This seems really odd - I've known children be banned for biting (repeatedly biting!) but not anything like that. It seems totally unnecessary in my opinion

AngieWool · 09/08/2022 12:41

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