To not be sure how to take this

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I work in a bank and we are sponsored to study a v demanding qualification - everyone does exams in batches and no exceptions. Colleague has asked for mitigating circs and reduced workload due to withdrawal from long term meds. I think for a mental health thing... they came off the meds recently and I can't help but feel it's self inflicted and they shouldn't get extra support - we are sacked if we fail too.

What exactly do you think is the 'self inflicted' bit of this scenario?

What mental health issue do you ignorantly think is self-inflicted?

No no i have mh things too - just the coming off the medication I mean.

Honestopinionspleaseall

Honest opinion - you're a twat.

I've never done this, but here - have my first

Are they coming off the mess with support from their Dr, or have they just taken it upon themselves to stop? Either way mental health conditions are not self inflicted.

How the fuck is it self inflicted if it's a mental health condition and they have been taken off their meds. God you sound like such an uncaring delight.

Seriously? Not kind of you, to say the least...

Nah, sounds like you need to concentrate on your own exam and mind your own beeswax re your colleague. You obviously don't know much about what's going on with him or her, and nor should you.

Seriously just concentrate on your own stuff. Getting twisted up about situations you don't understand is only going to lead to you performing worse in the exam.

So you think she shouldn't be coming of her meds or she shouldn't have been taking them in the 1st place?

Don't feel like he should have been coming off them at a vital time!

Self inflicted. What a ignorant and nasty thing to say!!! You say you have "mh things too" then show some fucking compassion.

I presume you know all the medical details in order to be able to make such a well informed judgement?

For example, I presume you know exactly why this person has had to withdraw off meds at this point in their treatment and life? I mean, you know, actually KNOW, in a comprehensive and expert way... rather than having guessed badly based on nothing but a ne'ery a hunch and a chip on one shoulder. One wonders how you managed to make the leap needed with all that hunching and shoulder chips?

Perhaps you could 'get yourself' signed off / labelled disabiled to avoid the same exams? I'm sure it's easy enough to do,

Sounds like you're jealous of the extra support. If you're in need of it too then go for it, but a colleague's situation is none of your business.

You don't have to 'take' it- it's nothing to do with you.

Can't see why this is your business, unless you are having to do the part of his work load he isn't doing. In which case talk to your boss about sharing it around.

There maybe a good reason she wants or even needs to come off them.
Some long term mh meds can be quite damaging to physical health after prolonged use.
Maybe there just not working for her anymore and are actually making her mh worse. Maybe pregnant.
Surely it should be treated as any other sickness

Going to chip in here OP and have name changed as very outing.

I did ACA at a Big 4, whilst I was doing my final exams I had a small child who had a serious operation and I struggled to cope and ended up having a breakdown about a year later and needing several months off sick with PTSD.

I passed my exams but was it worth my mental health? No. Do I wish someone helped me when I was under a huge amount of pressure? Absolutely.

There is no need to be a martyr and your colleague needs support not being vilified. The support I've had since from my employer means I'm very loyal and dedicated to my job as it could have been a very different story had people with attitudes like yours being the decision makers.

. I think for a mental health thing...

So you don't even know why she's taking them never mind why she's stopped taking them.

There are many reasons why someone would come off their medication. And the timing probably could not be helped? As someone who has their own mental health issues you're not very sympathetic op

I have to come off a medicine that has been found to have side effects that have raised blood pressure to unsafe levels. It will be horrid to come off them though due to withdrawal effects and the absence of their original benefit.

I guess the OP would decree I stay on them to satisfy him/her, although the tablets have been linked with 3 cardiac arrests?

In other examples many antidepressants, anti-anxiety medications have strong side effects which at some point can outweigh their intended benefit for the person concerned. The withdrawals are often understated in their intensity and extent. The withdrawals could definitely harm the ability to study, cram and pass exams to the same standard as they would normally.

Horrible side effects & withdrawals that don't just take a couple of days to get through.

Anyway, why the hell am I debating this?!

How is this any of your business? Is he asking for 25% of your grade to go to him?

unless you have full access to his medical records and knowledge of all of his circumstances I think you ought to shut the fuck up.

It really is none of your business.

That's a matter between your colleague and the employer. None of your business. If you, or any other employees feel stressed or need extra support to get through the exams you can also ask for it.