To not be sure how to take this

[Honestopinionspleaseall]

I work in a bank and we are sponsored to study a v demanding qualification - everyone does exams in batches and no exceptions. Colleague has asked for mitigating circs and reduced workload due to withdrawal from long term meds. I think for a mental health thing... they came off the meds recently and I can't help but feel it's self inflicted and they shouldn't get extra support - we are sacked if we fail too.

You sound absolutely awful.

Placemarking to see if OP can redeem themselves. Doubt it.

Two reasons that spring to mind that he might be coming off his meds...

Advised to by his doctor for medical reasons

Beginning of a manic period and he thinks he doesn't need them any longer

I would say that both of these reasons clearly need support so yabu

I doubt people come off medication just for a jolly

Are you his doctor OP? If not mind your own business.

It's absolutely none of your business OP!

It's between your colleague and line manager.

It's great that the company are able to help support your colleague through what must be a very difficult time.

You sound horrid, and almost jealous that she is getting support.

Very bizarre.

Thoroughly depressing that attitudes like this to MH still exist.

Erm, I'm trying to figure out a way to word this,
How the fuck dare you judge ANYONE for their choice to drop medication?
How do you know that this medication isn't hindering your colleagues life significantly?
For example, antidepressants have sent me into a spin before, 'made my problem worse.
Mood stabilisers made me aggressive and even my husband breathing pissed me off. In fact within a week my husband packed himself and DD off to his mothers. Then there was another tablet that I ended up addicted to.

Really you have no idea what your colleague is going through. I don't know where you get off with your attitude.

Why the hell do you consider this to be any of your concern????
It's because of people like you and your ignorant, unthinking judgements, that there is still such stigma attached to mental health issues.

Bloody shame on you. Think about what you say will you. Jesus.

We don't know what particular mental health condition this person has - he may not need to be on daily medication for the rest of his life. And even if he does have a condition which requires lifelong medication, he might need to switch from one specific drug to another (if he is having severe side effects, for example, or if it is not working for him any more), and he might have to come off his current medication in order to move to a new drug.

Even if his condition doesn't need life long medication - for example depression - he might still need to change his medication, because one antidepressant isn't working for him. I have done this - it meant coming off the drugs in a controlled manner, under the doctor's guidance, but faster than I would have done if I felt I didn't need the ADs any more - and it was rough, really rough - but I had to do it, because I was getting worse on my current medication, and needed to change as soon as possible.

@Honestopinionspleaseall - I can't see how this man getting extra consideration is going to harm you - he is taking nothing from you, so I don't think you have any right or need to object to the help being given to him.

I mean ffs "self inflicted"

Really?? I mean REALLY??

Why don't you offer your collegue some support instead of ridiculous judgement ffs.

What on earth does this have to do with you?!
Genuine question

I'm sure you'll try the best you can in these exams, as will your colleague who sounds like he is not in the best place just now. How does his applying for more time or whatever have any bearing on you??

can't you help / extra support or reduced workload too?
It sounds like a really big deal if you are sacked if you fail the exams, so if someone has been given some mitigating circumstances, you should be able to do the same?

It would only be fair, and probably a much healthier attitude than resenting your colleague.

It's great tgey have been supportive. You should be too.

Actually, surely this is a reverse? Because no one is this cunty are they?!

Coming off an antidepressant (because of medical advice, with help and further medication to support me) almost killed me.

It sent me into a suicidal depression and state of extreme agitation and then anxiety. I was hospitalised and then became addicted to the diazepam I was put on to help with the withdrawal symptoms. I then had to slowly withdraw from that, it took years.

I nearly lost my daughter, husband, my friends and today have no career to speak of, as I lost that. Thank God I am alive though, and now much better.

OP, you need to seriously think about your attitude. Self- inflicted... I have no words. People do not choose to experience things like this.

Also, are you and loads of people at your work gossiping about this? How unprofessional.

If they have met the criteria for the support they are getting with your employer then it noyb! You don't make the rules. Wind your neck in, stop being jealous of others having who are having a difficult time and concentrale on your own work.
And please God don't let these exams qualify you for a position that involves managing people!

You really are staggeringly nasty and stupendously ignorant.

I was gonna ask if you'd ever been a qualified doctor.. but no clearly just a dick.

How nasty can you be?! It's like your jealous of him getting a bit of support (which he clearly needs). It's none of your business anyway. And you shouldn't be worrying about anyone else's situation. Unless you're shit at your job, you should pass fine.

Someone else's medication is nothing to do with you. You don't get to have an opinion on this.

You just don't want someone to have help incase they do well, don't you?!