Husband's female friend is causing issues

[HannahGJ]

I'm new here so forgive me for not knowing abbreviations and what not.

I have been married to a wonderful man for just over eight months now. He took my one year old twins on as his, he introduced me to his friends and family (His brother and his children with his first wife who sadly died) And he introduced me to his best female friend.

At first, I loved this girl - Went out with her for drinks, went out for girly days. You name it - We did it. She's recently gotten herself a lovely boyfriend. This guy could put all Men to shame, he's like James Bond but wears Jeans and a t-shirt but yet she still wants my Husband to fix her issues. She calls him all the time, she wants him around. It's making me sick with worry that this girl will ruin my marriage

I'm considering Divorcing him, not because I don't love him - I love him with everything but I'm not the kind of girl that does well with heartbreak. Neither of them realise that what they're doing is wrong.

Okay. That was one heck of a whinge
Once again, I'm new here so be gentle. I really could use a friendly bit of advice

You probably should divorce him. He can do better, let him go.

I have had a similar friend for 25 years who helps me with my car and so on. We are totally platonic.
His wife was funny originally but she knows me so well now that she would never believe there was anything between us which there isn't.
I make sure I spend a lot of time with her though so she doesn't feel insecure.
Both friendships are very important to me.

A preemptive divorce just because something might happen without even discussing the issue with your husband is about as drastic as I've ever heard!
You do sound a bit highly strung.

Also a mother of twins and a bit skeptical about the idea of a single parent with baby twins dating...

I think you could benefit from therapy about your control issues if this is real

Whats the problem? They're friends. It's not an issue. You just don't like the fact she has a vagina. I have male friends, some are married. I have no interest in them romantically/sexually. Honestly get a grip, you sound needy and a bit pathetic.

Neither of them realise that what they're doing is wrong.

That's because they're not doing anything wrong.