Last week a friend sent me a link to an article about the mental load and it made me think. I'd never really sat and thought about how much parenting DH does and decided that as we were away on holiday for a week and parenting should be 50/50 it would be a good chance to tally up the actual split. DH barely lifted a finger all fucking week even refusing to shower dd3 (aged 2) in the mens showers which meant i had three children to shower and dress (camping on a beach) every night in a tiny cubicle. He didn't change one nappy in the whole week or dress a child or pack a day bag. He did cook one meal - a barbecue - but even then made his food first so the children were starving.
On the way home today i asked dh to change dd3s nappy. Poor mite has a bug and i'd dealt with four lots of vomit by this point and just had enough of bodly fluids. He asked why he had to do which made my blood boil but i calmly pointed out he hadn"t changed a nappy all week. He replyed "oh damn you noticed, i thought i'd got away with it". I got cross, he said it was a joke and is now cross i am cross. AIBU to think this isn't funny?