To be confused about consent

[goldfish1102]

Would it still count as an assault if you had consented to some sexual activity but not something specific but the other person did it anyway?

yes.

Yes. Why are you asking? Has something happened to you or a friend?

Only if the other person had a reasonable belief that you did not consent to that specific thing.

Yes, not sure how much I should say though. Thanks.

Of course, yes it's assault.
Google the cup of tea analogy for consent.

Yes, it counts as an assault. Consent isn't a go-ahead for indefinite and changing acts; it's consent at that specific point for that specific act and can be retracted at any point with no ifs, buts or coconuts.

Hope you're ok OP.

I have seen that before but don't really like it

What don't you like about the tea analogy?

It's just not the same as sex

Has someone slipped something where it wasn't supposed to go?

Yes. It's still assault.

Have you posted about this before? There was a similar thread a few weeks ago and the overwhelming response was to tell the OP that what had happened to her was absolutely wrong. If you're that OP, I (still) believe you and I hope you're okay.

Yes; to put it diplomatically.

No that wasn't me.

Are you okay? Can we help at all?

Consent isn't a one time thing. Consenting to one act isn't consent for anything else. Consent can also be withdrawn. The only issue is if your partner had a reasonable belief that consent did exist. If you had made it clear that there was no consent for a particular act then it is an assault.

Why don't you like it?
It's meant to be simple to focus on the serious issue of whether you want to accept what is on offer or not.
I hope you are ok .

Depends if the defendant had reasonable belief that the victim did actually consent. So depends very much on the specifics of what was said / communicated. Hope you are ok

I think I've got a fair idea what's happened. If it is what I think has happened it's horrendous!
People see it on porn all the time and think it's acceptable. It's not!
It's painful and violating.

He was told it hurt and please stop.

Sorry my first sentence isn't very clear - what I mean is you don't just consent once, it is an ongoing process and so consent is specific not blanket.

The minute you said "stop" was the minute it became an assault, frankly.

At the point you said 'stop', you withdrew your consent and he should have stopped.

Are you safe right now?

If you feel the need to question it then the answer is almost certainly yes. Consent is not a blank cheque. It comes with implied trust and the entirely reasonable expectation of respect.