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Original poster

To be slightly put off by how confident this guy was

62 replies

user1496429410 · 02/06/2017 19:57

I was at a training course today. Walked in late. I was dressed up nice as I was going for drinks with friends after wards and didn't want to have to go back to the house to change.

After the training course I went into the canteen next door to get a coffee to go and a (handsome) guy just walks upto me and asks me how I found the course. I was surprised but chatted to him while I was waiting. We weren't chatting for ten minutes as there was a big queue.

The Batista asked if we were paying together and when I said no he said 'well you certainly LOOK like you're together' and he then winked.

The guy then turned to the barista and this guy who was also waiting and he said 'God loved a trier. I think this is the least smooth I've ever been'.

I realised he was a little embarrassed so I Told him to pass his phone and I'd put my number in.

I grabbed my coffee and before I could go he asked me if I wanted to go for a drink at the wine bar across the road on Saturday. I agreed.

Now I'm thinking he was a little TOO confident. To just ask a woman out like that. Alarm bells are going off that he's a bit of a player/smooth talker!

What do you think? AIBU to think he might be a wrong un?

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Original poster
user1496429410 · 02/06/2017 19:58

Were not weren't

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ImperialBlether · 02/06/2017 20:00

I don't get it. Who did you give your number to?

PeaFaceMcgee · 02/06/2017 20:00

Give him a chance! You'll know much more instinct-wise after the date.

Original poster
user1496429410 · 02/06/2017 20:00

The handsome guy obviously. He was good looking. Bit confident though!

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StillDrivingMeBonkers · 02/06/2017 20:01

But you put your number in his phone THEN he asked you out.

Not sure who was giving who the old come-on here TBH.

Hassled · 02/06/2017 20:02

A nice good looking guy asked you out for a drink so go and have fun. Don't overthink this. He might be a player but it's way too early to tell.

HirplesWithHaggis · 02/06/2017 20:02

Well, he might be a wrong 'un. Or he could be Mr AbsolutelyPerfectForYou. There's only one way to find out...

0hCrepe · 02/06/2017 20:03

So you put your number in his phone and then he asked you out? Don't get what's over confident about that! He asked once you'd shown you were interested!

TheNoseyProject · 02/06/2017 20:03

Pretty sure you put the moves on him here.

DonaldStott · 02/06/2017 20:04

Wow. Just like in the American sitcoms. You weren't wearing Impulse by any chance were you?

annielouise · 02/06/2017 20:04

I thought you sounded more confident/flirty saying give me your phone and I'll put my number in.

Original poster
user1496429410 · 02/06/2017 20:08

Ah no he said 'well if you're free anytime it would be nice to meet up' BEFORE I handed my phone.

I didn't know what to say at first. Then the barista made his comment. Then hats when I gave the number.

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BeyondTheReasons · 02/06/2017 20:12

Whys it relevant you were late and dressed nice?

sooperdooper · 02/06/2017 20:15

You put your number in his phone before he'd asked john out, how does that make him overconfident more than you? Confused

delilah245 · 02/06/2017 20:16

I don't think it sounded over confident considering the situation am deathly the barista kind of instigated it.. he probably figured he might as well go with it!

He was good looking, you obviously clicked, and then he asked you out.... I'm not getting what is to question here? Should a man be timid ?! if you've never seen him before he may have thought.. if he didn't ask then then he might not ever see you again?

Don't over think it! I think its exciting, give the guy a chance! ;)

Original poster
user1496429410 · 02/06/2017 20:16

soopetdooper he asked me out first.

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KittysMyName · 03/06/2017 08:42

If anyone was over confident in this it was you; "I realised he was a little embarrassed so I told him to pass his phone and I put my number in." Shock

VladmirsPoutine · 03/06/2017 09:12

Just go for your drink. It may work it may not.

Going from this alone I wouldn't read too much into it. Confidence is a good thing, I think it's arrogance you need to be wary of.

Ladyformation · 03/06/2017 09:25

He sounds confident and lovely. Enjoy your drink!

Ethylred · 03/06/2017 09:34

Stealth boast.

But well done OP, you've pulled.

rightwhine · 03/06/2017 09:39

He had to come up with something if he was embarrassed and put on the spot.

Arealhumanbeing · 03/06/2017 09:39

Yeah he just sounds confident. And at ease with himself which is a good thing.

People who like themselves tend not fuck you around or behave like dicks.

Jollypirates3 · 03/06/2017 09:44

I feel sorry for men now. Women make itso difficut for them to approach. And then when they do they are too confident!? Go and have a nice time. If nothing materialises it doesnt matter. You met someone new. Possibly a life partner, a friend or not. Just go and have a nice time

SassynSane · 03/06/2017 09:48

So hot date with Mr Handsome tonight then? Go, have fun, keep open mind. You were BU to be put off though, if he didn't have the confidence to speak to you, you wouldn't have a date to get ready for later! Grin

HungerOfThePine · 03/06/2017 09:51

I think good on him for asking you out, if you like someone why miss an opportunity when it appears.

I would prefer someone to say what they think than dance around it and be too shy.
Nothing ventured nothing gained and all that.

You could meet him and decide there's not gonna be another. Being self assured or confident isn't character a flaw.