To be slightly put off by how confident this guy was

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I was at a training course today. Walked in late. I was dressed up nice as I was going for drinks with friends after wards and didn't want to have to go back to the house to change.

After the training course I went into the canteen next door to get a coffee to go and a (handsome) guy just walks upto me and asks me how I found the course. I was surprised but chatted to him while I was waiting. We weren't chatting for ten minutes as there was a big queue.

The Batista asked if we were paying together and when I said no he said 'well you certainly LOOK like you're together' and he then winked.

The guy then turned to the barista and this guy who was also waiting and he said 'God loved a trier. I think this is the least smooth I've ever been'.

I realised he was a little embarrassed so I Told him to pass his phone and I'd put my number in.

I grabbed my coffee and before I could go he asked me if I wanted to go for a drink at the wine bar across the road on Saturday. I agreed.

Now I'm thinking he was a little TOO confident. To just ask a woman out like that. Alarm bells are going off that he's a bit of a player/smooth talker!

What do you think? AIBU to think he might be a wrong un?

No one wants a bumbling twat, what's the problem?

You met on a training course, we're you likely to see him again? If he's not gonna be seeing you in the office the next day then he had to ask there and then surely?
But we'll done on the hansome man and everything

He sounds nice! Self assured in a grown up sort of way. He liked you and asked you out respectfully. I'd go for that.

I think you both sound nice and confident - sounds like a flirty interaction between two people who liked each other that will end in a date. And if he's a tosspot then you'll just not see him again.

I'd have no problem with that. I like confidence, as long as it's not allied to a vastly inflated sense of one's worth/charm/work etc. (Apart from putting my number in someone's phone. I hate other people's phones.)

But the way you say it suggests you only gave him your number because the coffee place guy said you looked as if you were together...?

Well speed was necessary if you weren't gonna see him again go, have fun, see if he's worth it

I'd just be so amazed to have Dave Batista serving me coffee!

No he sounded fine. And you gave him your number. He didn't ask.

Give him a chance

As long as they don't withdraw the offer! I don't mind waiting I'm just currently unemployed and conscious that I might wait for nothing!

Wrong thread! Sorry 😳😂

You sound equally confident so pretty well matched I would say. Unless you are a player OP?

Don't be daft. It might have taken nerves of steel to ask you out.

Go out with him, you've got nothing to lose & everything to gain.

I suspect you just wanted to do a little stealth boasting

Good on ya 🤣 Have a great time with Mr Handsome!

Do you think somewhere on the internet a man is asking AIBU to worry this woman might be a bit of a stalker/weirdo/player. She asked for my phone just like that, bold as brass

I picked up a going the opposite way on pelican crossing once. Dined out on that story for years.

He's good looking and he clearly fancies you, you're having a drink not an arranged marriage. Stop over thinking it.

I think he sounds quite nice

He sounds a very normal amount of confident.

How did you enjoy the course?

Well if you're free anytime it would be nice to meet up?

How is that overconfident? It seems like the minimum amount of confidence that would result in you meeting up again. If he were any less confident, you would not have exchanged numbers and you would never meet again.

KC225 I did similar in a petrol station! Our eyes met over the throbbing pumps ... we left separately and then I pulled into a car park, he followed and we swapped numbers

Didn't last, he was a drink driving alcoholic

Aww ChipIn...love a happy...wait, he was a what now? LTB!

So OP if am reading your crossed threads right looking like new job and new love interest? Happy June!

Well done, a guy asked you out. This story is a bit... i.e. "So what?"

Hi 5 Chip. Opportunity knocks wherever knocks. Good one.

We both crossed on the crossing, made eye contact them we both turned back to look and laughed. He said. D'you fancy going for a drink? And I said 'What now?' And we did.

He may be slightly more confident than most men if he asks you out spontaneously, but, I think this is refreshing! At least he's not shy about taking the initiative.

Have fun later!

Confidence is Key to quote willy wonka!

I think he could be sitting at home feeling the same! Remembering the speed your phone was pushed in to his hands! only teasing

Grief! He sounds sweet. You sound whiny and , if I'm honest, a bit obviously disingenuous 😊

He sounds nice!

Why not just go and enjoy the date?
I feel sorry for boys/men (mum of all boys here), if they don't ask a girl/woman out then they're a wimp but if they do ask her out then they're over confident!

I'm really confused

I suppose you'll find out on your date at the wine bar whether he's just confident and self assured or an arrogant prat who'll say anything to get you into bed.

There's no point analysing your brief encounter to death and picking apart everything you both said. You'll drive yourself mad.

OP - Are you sure you're not dealing with the snap-back of your own confidence, but putting it on him instead?