To be slightly put off by how confident this guy was

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I was at a training course today. Walked in late. I was dressed up nice as I was going for drinks with friends after wards and didn't want to have to go back to the house to change.

After the training course I went into the canteen next door to get a coffee to go and a (handsome) guy just walks upto me and asks me how I found the course. I was surprised but chatted to him while I was waiting. We weren't chatting for ten minutes as there was a big queue.

The Batista asked if we were paying together and when I said no he said 'well you certainly LOOK like you're together' and he then winked.

The guy then turned to the barista and this guy who was also waiting and he said 'God loved a trier. I think this is the least smooth I've ever been'.

I realised he was a little embarrassed so I Told him to pass his phone and I'd put my number in.

I grabbed my coffee and before I could go he asked me if I wanted to go for a drink at the wine bar across the road on Saturday. I agreed.

Now I'm thinking he was a little TOO confident. To just ask a woman out like that. Alarm bells are going off that he's a bit of a player/smooth talker!

What do you think? AIBU to think he might be a wrong un?

I feel sorry for men now

I very much don't. They're not the ones who must at all times be on their guard to not be fucking raped.

Women have good reason to be suspicious of everything that seems the tiniest bit off about a man.

Compared to that, men have it easy. If they don't manage to appear sufficiently nice and normal, the bad thing that happens is that - oh noes! - they don't get a date.

OP, if he seems off, listen to your gut feeling. Meet him in a public place, and stay in that public place, and look out for red flags.

What looks off to me is that he immediately felt a need to share his "success" with other men, instead of saying something to you.

What is it that causes you to wonder? Did you dissect everything rationally, and came to the conclusion he was too confident? Or did something just feel off?

You might be overthinking it, but then, you might unconsciously have noticed something wrong and react to that.

How else would people get to know other people if they didn't ask?

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He just sounds like a regular person. Not especially shy, not especially confident, just normal.

An overly confident/arrogant person wouldn't have been even slightly embarrassed by the barista's comment.

He sound a like he has a reasonable amount of confidence. Not anxious, not arrogant. Sounds like a balance. If you don't want to go out with him, you don't need a reason, but he sounded fine.

What on earth's a Batista?

A mistyping of a Barista, T and R are next to each other on the keyboard.

So they are. Silly me thought it was a dry shampoo

An off-duty Barista wearing Batiste dry shampoo on their way to a Baptist church perhaps :)

Batista: (noun) person who impulsively seeks out women with greasy roots to spray liberally with dry shampoo.

The Batista asked if we were paying together and when I said no he said 'well you certainly LOOK like you're together' and he then winked.

So the Barista said the above and then winked...huh? Or do you mean 'Barrista'? Either way it doesn't make sense in the context of what OP was talking about.

Your post is unintelligible.