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AIBU to want to punish teenagers that are not mine?

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FlossyMooToo · 02/06/2017 17:40

I am very angry.
So angry I am posting here instead of going to 3 teenagers homes and screaming at them and their parents.

School hols and responsible 13 yo is at home while I am at work. He knows the rules and is a good kid.
He did his first day on a milk round this morning and was up at 2:30am so wanted to spend the day napping.
His 3 "friends" Hmm came round to call for him. He told them through the letter box he was tired and not coming out.
They kept nagging him so he ignored them and went upstairs.
I have come home from work to find the flowers I had planted and spent £280 on over the weekend (back garden) have had all the heads knocked off with a stick.

My son was not aware they had done this.
I am too angry to be rational so posting here till I calm down.

When did teenagers lose all respect?

I appreciate this is a first world problem and they are only flowers but it was alot of money to me and I just wanted a nice space for me and 4 DC. Sad

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FuckyDuck · 02/06/2017 17:46

Go round and tell the parents. I'd be fucking fuming!

TizzyDongue · 02/06/2017 17:48

To start off it is quite a personal 'attack (even if it is just flowers). How would they have got into your back garden?

Also do you know the parents? I'd head over if you do - obviously without screaming, wait till you've calmed down a bit first - and ask them (boys) what happened to your flowers.

Finally please don't think this is normal! I've a 13 year old just finished up for the summer and there were 5 13 year olds jn the house. They were polite, respectful and awkward.

NotYoda · 02/06/2017 17:49

If you are sure it was them, I'd contact their parents. If one of mine did that the'd be paying for new plants/doing weeding or whatever reparation you wanted.

Original poster
FlossyMooToo · 02/06/2017 17:49

I want to but I am that angry I would not come across well probably get arrested.

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NotYoda · 02/06/2017 17:49

And no, this isn't normal

NotYoda · 02/06/2017 17:50

How did they get in the back garden?

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FlossyMooToo · 02/06/2017 17:52

How would they have got into your back garden?

Semi detached so just a gate in to the back.

I have text 1 parent as I have her number. She text back aying she is disgusted and will speak to her aying

I have told my son they are not welcome here again. I feel so sorry for him. He is a lovely lad.

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Haffdonga · 02/06/2017 17:52

Problem is that nobody saw them. They''ll claim it wasn't them and their parents will believe them

I'd first ask your ds to message them and say how furious you are and that you're going round to their parents unless they pay for the damage. Who knows, they might own up or if nothing else they might blame each other so you'll have a reason to speak to their parents.

Haffdonga · 02/06/2017 17:53

Ah. Too late.

TizzyDongue · 02/06/2017 17:56

If they have parents who don't think this is ok you can definitely speak to them.

I was just asking how they would have got in to see how thought out it was. Hop over a small wall - spur of the moment twattery, 6ft wall - deliberate twattery. Neither ok mind.

UnicornSparkles1 · 02/06/2017 17:57

I'd be livid.

PeaFaceMcgee · 02/06/2017 17:57

I'd want some repayment or I'd be going to the police for criminal damage tbh. Little scrotes.

Footle · 02/06/2017 18:01

Don't downplay this. It's serious.

WorraLiberty · 02/06/2017 18:06

I'd be fuming. Do you know it's definitely them though?

When did teenagers lose all respect?

You mean when did these particular 3 teenagers lose all respect.

As you said yourself, yours is a lovely lad.

ElectricDreamers · 02/06/2017 18:07

Looks like they've been copying The Inbetweeners

Original poster
FlossyMooToo · 02/06/2017 18:15

Yes sorry I did not mean to tar all teenagers with the same brush. I have 2 myself and they would never do this. I was just angry and shocked when I posted.

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Original poster
FlossyMooToo · 02/06/2017 18:19

Looks like they've been copying The Inbetweeners

Hate that show.

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TheweewitchRoz · 02/06/2017 18:23

I'd complain to the police - surely that's criminal damage (maybe an exaggeration on my part but I'd also be fuming & likely to swing for them). Definitely tell their parents & ask for money to replace what they damaged.

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FlossyMooToo · 02/06/2017 18:26

I would feel like I was wasting their time complaining abouut flowers Blush

Why destroy them? I cannot get my head round it. They mustof known I woud know it was them. Scumbags.

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TizzyDongue · 02/06/2017 18:27

It's not about the flowers per se. It's the act of deliberate destruction.

Mothervulva · 02/06/2017 18:30

You'd not be wasting their time, I'd be livid if my child did this and I'd be speaking to someone if their child did it. I love my garden and would be gutted.

Maudlinmaud · 02/06/2017 18:32

That is dreadful behaviour. I'm not surprised you are cross. Hopefully the mother you spoke to takes it seriously and perhaps contacts the other parents.
Are they usually involved in anti social behaviour?

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FlossyMooToo · 02/06/2017 18:40

Are they usually involved in anti social behaviour?

I honestly dont know.
My son has a wide circle of friends and he hangs out with these 3 less so than the other friends.
I have noticed over the last 6 months they are quite cocky these days ( they are 1 year older than DS) but I but that down to teenage attitude.

I have passed angry and now am just sad and gutted.

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NotYoda · 02/06/2017 19:47

Oh wanton destruction is just depressing isn't it? I really understand. I hope the parents take it seriously

steppemum · 02/06/2017 20:00

Please follow it up, the boys need to know that they destroyed £280 worth of plants, plus a lot of hard work.
It was a thoughtless and stupid act, but they will not realise it fully unless they understand that it was also an expensive one.

I don't anticitpate you getting any money, but they shoudl know what they did.