..to take a sneaky pregnancy test behind DPs back?

[broodynmoody]

Ohh tell me im not!

We've just had our first round of IVF.
Im not supposed to be testing til Monday (13 days after transfer) but I just cant wait that long - and frankly there's no need to with a 5 day blastocyst.
After a long negotiation with DP, he agreed I can test a day earlier, this Saturday. But what can ONE more day hurt?
He won't budge so I'm dying to have a sneaky test tomorrow and do my best face.
Do I or don't I?

DONT because if it's negative you will have no idea of it's a real negative or if you have tested too early.
If the Clinic told you to wait until Sunday, there is a reason for that. Trust them!

Don't do it!!!!!!!!!!

There's no way I couldn't test.

Please don't do it. I know you're desperate to know, but please please resist. It's only a couple of days- a few hours, then you'll know.

I really really hope you get your positive when you do test

Wait. While you're waiting you can indulge the dream of being pregnant. If you are, then it's all good anyway. But if you're not, you're cutting yourself short of a day of positive feelings. I wait as long as possible to test on this basis.

That would be so unfair on your DH, don't test! YABU!

I'd test. I'd pee on it and immediately tell him sorry I've tested, and then wait for the result together. By tomorrow it'll be accurate

You won't be able to be sure that a bfp isn't a false positive from the medication, nor that a bfn isn't a false negative because you tested too early.
I say that as someone who did exactly what you want to do, got a bfn and had a miserable weekend, followed by elation at a positive blood test on the Monday.

Just to clarify, I meant the early testing, not keeping it a secret. We both agreed to test early.

Blatant place marking

Don't do it though, if it is a positive, it'll be nicer to recall finding out together. I think with IVF, as a previous poster mentioned "you're in it together" Theresa May, is that you!?

Usually I will say do it.

But this isn't a usual situation, it's IVF and has taken a lot to get to this point, a proper team.

Let him be apart of it.

However, I'm definitely not saying you should wait. I'd be very persuasive and do it sooner but with him present...

With both my pregnancies I was testing for many days before actually getting my BFP and DH had no idea.

When I got my BFPs I just told him I was pregnant. It wouldn't have even occurred to me that he should be there when I tested.

However, I wasn't having IVF so it wasn't such a momentous moment if you know what I mean. Considering how important taking this test is due to your circumstances then I think you should do it together.

And the very best of luck!!!!!

I wouldn't be able to wait. But you've done so good already.

I wouldn't want to drag it out just incase (please don't take that the wrong way) .. if you know you will be able to get a certain result, try and persuade him to agree to do it earlier than the weekend!

Good luck. Hope it's good news xx

I did it after IVF although it wasn't sneaky, he was away and I'd mentioned I'd be testing a day early (tested 9dp 5dt, was supposed to be 10). I had an inkling it'd be positive though and it was.

I think it is actually a good thing to test early by a day or so as if you get a cp (like I had previously) you will at least know. As long as you can handle it if it's a negative.... HOWEVER, if he's around then you should def do it together!

I don't think you get false positives from the medication, but be aware whatever the result it will be early days. Best of luck!

I've only ever tested alone - and told DH if it was positive. But then, we didn't go through IVF together, which is obviously a very different experience.

Good luck OP - I really hope you get a positive result.

Personally I've done all tests alone and last time I was ttc I was way too early. But I had a whole load of those cheap internet tests so I just did one per day from about 7dpo because I'm crazy. Got faintest of faint positive about 11dpo and told DH next day when it was actually a visible line.

HOWEVER - I didn't have IVF and DH would have absolutely no idea what day my missed period was or anything like that. I'd wait in your situation! God luck!!!

Do it when you want but not secretly.

Why is he so insistent on waiting until Saturday?

With ivf, you most certainly are not in it together. Pretty sure I don't remember my husband taking a metric fuck tonne of hormones or filling a sharps bin with used needles from endless injections. I also don't remember him enduring the indignity of too many doctors to count looking up his foof. He certainly did not had repeated dildo cams, nor did he have a general anaesthetic or large needles shoved in to his ovaries for egg collection. He also did not get painful OHSS post egg collection.

I do remember him wandering off to spunk in a specimen cup the grand total of his contribution to the process of ivf.

Not that I'm bitter or anything

Just test, op. You've earned it.

Fingers crossed for you!

Good luck even!

Tell him you are doing it if you do. If it's a BFP it'll be sad he's not there to share.

But witg testing early it's a BFN then you're in slightly limbo, as either it was to early or it is a false negative.

If you're 10dp5dt and no sign of af, then you're quite likely to be pregnant...

...and the trigger shot will have been out of your system in about 3 days...

Don't be selfish you're in this together it takes two remember.

Just wait.

Good god, I've never done a pregnancy test with DP around!!