to get annoyed with people who judge beach holidays?

[3DStanley]

I get really annoyed with the type of people who say 'Oh I could never lie on the beach for two weeks, you must be so bored!' and act like the only valid use of my precious two weeks off a year is trekking barefoot through the Andes teaching orphans English.

I get especially annoyed because 95% of them seem to earn lots of money for jobs with very little stress.

AIBU?

"So she says"? Gosh.

I realise people can perceive a slight where nine is intended. This thread is full of people who have assumed the OP is saying they are being unreasonable for not liking a beach holiday, for example.

None, not nine.

I can't stand lying on a beach for one day let alone too weeks, I'm not too fond of anything hotter than 28 degrees either..

But I would love to be able to have a chill out beach holiday I love the look of the Maldives and such like (even contemplated getting married on a beach somewhere exotic) but in reality it's just not me..

So I envy you in a way.

I am lucky though my DP is the same as me, it must be awful when one half loves beach holidays and the other loves sightseeing!

Not my thing. But your dismissive tone about what people must do if they don't go for a beach holiday is just as annoying.
I know plenty of people right now who are off on a beach holiday. Meh.. hope they have a great time.

We've done beach holidays, poolside holidays, multi-centre train-travel type holidays, even an Andes holiday - our choice each time, based on family situation (small DCs don't do very well at 12000 feet), inclination and season (Canaries in January far better than Brighton at the same time of year). Horde for courses, as someone said above.

@saladsmoothie (page 7)

I'm certainly not looking down on you for spending two weeks in a New Look bikini reading Danielle Steele on a white plastic sun lounger if that's what feeds your soul OP. I simply prefer to integrate myself with an undiscovered tribe near Papua New Guinea and immerse myself in their culture, culminating in a hot-steamed tattooing ceremony where I am accepted as one of their own, having become fluent in the language and taught the children how to build self powering fridges. And then I pop into several museums and listen to some really difficult German opera on my way home. It's not that I think one is superior to the other at all. Horses for courses. I'm definitely not looking down on anyone for spending two weeks literally in one place by a pool while I subsume my soul in the very essence of what it is to be human.

Nearly peed myself laughing at that. 😂😂😂 Hilarious! 🤣🤣🤣

The sad thing is that there actually are people like that in existence. Obnoxious and arrogant people who are deliriously full of themselves, who judge people who don't do as they do, and who think they're better than anyone else.

Always had stressful jobs but couldn't do a standard beach holiday. Fast paced job means I struggle to slow down and find active holidays much more enjoyable.

I think what might have riled a lot of people was the OP's repeated assumptions that the people who enjoy a different type of holiday must have well paid jobs with no stress.

I have never earned lots of money so have limited experience here, but imagine there must be very few jobs where this does not come with a fair helping of stress. And I can well believe Coastal's experience that somebody in a stressful job might simply be too charged to be able to cope with a very inactive holiday.

corythatwas
Exactly.
it's a bit "people are mean and nasty who dare to voice an opinion about beach holidays. Let's all talk about why they're mean, snobs and must have stress free jobs because otherwise they would love beach holidays".

The irony of the opening post (and many subsequent ones calling non- beach people snobs who must feel the only holiday is to 'find themselves' in Nepal) has been well and truly missed.

No one thinks all non-beach people are snobs. But some are. If you have never been on the receiving end of it maybe it's hard to believe.

I don't think anyone thinks all not beach folk are snobs, but you can see some of the over the top responses on this thread.

That's despite lots of people saying "not for me because... but I wouldn't care what somebody said they liked".

Even that has set people up with 'this thread just proves your point. Look hwo judgey people have been. I can't believe people still actually give an opinion. The correct thing to do is not have an opinion' etc.

I don't understand and also get a bit
judgey about people who have the money to travel but only go on beach/sun lounge holidays and never actually have an interest in seeing anything of the world. Plenty of people manage to combine
beach and sightseeing. Travelling and experiencing other cultures with my family is such a big part of my life and I also think its so important to show my children other countries just as part of their education that yes I judge the people who only seem to do Orlando and AI in Spain. I would never say anything to them.

Yabu. Your the one being judgmental about 'traveller types'.

Each to their own I guess (love all holidays here) more interested in what your friends do for work no stress and lots of cash😁

I think the beach is boring. I would rather read my book in a garden. Beaches with small children in tow are even worse. Unfortunately my kids love the beach, so I am destined to spend several more hours this year digging them.a gigantic hole in the sand to sit in. We go to France though, so I drag them off to explore some places of my choice too. The important thing about a holiday is that all the people going can enjoy themselves in some way. It doesn't matter a bit if people not going onthe holiday wouldn't enjoy it.

salad and raven the kind of 'holiday' described here is pure TV presenter snobbery, the sort of adventure that in reality is scripted to the nth degree and planned by researchers and backed by crew who will instantly fly you out of any trouble. It's not reality.

You're the one being judgmental about traveller types

The only judgment I've seen of traveller types on here is about the ones unable to stop themselves from giving you a twenty minute lecture about how superior their choice of mind expanding travel is to your lazing-about holiday.

If you are the sort of person who enjoys a different type of holiday but doesn't feel the need to bang on about it in condescending tones at every opportunity then I don't think op was directing the thread at you.

the sort of adventure that in reality is scripted to the nth degree and planned by researchers and backed by crew who will instantly fly you out of any trouble. It's not reality.
So because you've not done it you're an expert on how other people do an adventure holiday. OK then...

Some adventure holidays are sherpaed and have guides because you simply wouldn't want to do them without. E.g. I have no intention of trekking to mount everest, but if I did, I would ABSOLUTELY want a guide with local knowledge.

Some trekking holidays are staffed because people new to it want phasing into it.

Many skiing holidays have instructors..m shock horror hwo scripted and TV of people.

Many activities like water sports that people may do on a more active beach holiday have instructors who can help should something go wrong.

There are some supported long distance bike rides.

Most people who long distance cycle tour just do it themselves unsupported having built up confidence in the UK.

Some backpacking holidays are very much in the vein of gap yahs types.

Others are self supported. A friend of mine did unassisted back backing around south America. I would probably not do it. She's fluent in Spanish and was happy thay she could deal with most situations.

But for all the people crying about how people don't like beach holidays, there sure is a wealth of knowledge about how scripted other people's holidays are.

And yes, my adventure holiday is planned to the nth degree because if I don't travel far enough on each day I won't get to the airport on time and then I'll miss my flight home, which you know is sort of important.

GallicosCats
Just reread, I hope I'm right in thinking that you were pointing out that the stupid excessive versions of adventure holidays are exactly that, stupid charactatures.

Personally I have the attention span of a gnat so never do beach/poolside holidays they would be my idea of hell. But then you'd probably hate my kind of holiday.

Horses for course OP if we all did the same thing life would be boring

I don't understand and also get a bit
judgey about people who have the money to travel but only go on beach/sun lounge holidays and never actually have an interest in seeing anything of the world.

Why? It doesn't affect you. How about those like me who could probably afford a couple of holidays in my life but choose not to? That must really confuse you and your judgy pants

I don't like beaches for more than a stroll, I don't like sitting by a pool all day, I don't like returning to the same location even once. I often wish I could do a beach holiday, but it drives me mad, sitting on a beach with hundreds of other people - it's just uncomfortable unless you carry half the house with you and there's no privacy. We sometimes get a villa with a pool but still can't hang around for long. Being stuck in the same location for 2 weeks is a challenge too - I need to keep moving every few days.
Orlando was better than I expected - my expectations were very low, it was a trip for the kids, but we endured it admirably - but we would never return to any Disney Park - ever!

LiviaDrusillaAugusta
Agreed! That kind of post IS judging people who do beach holidays.

A totally different type of post to 'I prefer city breaks, UK camping, trekking, adventure holidays but each to their own'

My idea of a great holiday is a few days at home. I don't judge anyone else's choice because it's nothing to do with me.

If people spent more time minding their own business about things that are harmless and don't affect them, the world would be a better place

Some people just want to relax in guaranteed sunshine and not have to worry about thinking, planning, researching, budgetting etc. Is that really so bad?

We're going on a package holiday to Gozo next month and while we're staying B&B in what looks like a naice boutique hotel and we're scuba diving so doing/seeing more than beach and pool, the main driver to me for booking a package is the slightly complicated transfer where we have to fly to Malta, get a taxi to the ferry port, travel as foot passengers on the ferry and then get another taxi/transfer across Gozo to the hotel (last time it was an old man in a tatty van - it's that kind of place, the land that H&S forgot and where people often do several odd jobs to make a living - I think he also did maintenance in a hotel).

The point being that if the flight is delayed, or there is a problem with the ferry and we end up stranded on the wrong island, it's up to the tour company not us to sort it all out. It also worked out cheaper to book a package anyway.

Most big AI hotel resorts have activities and excursions so I doubt that everyone who goes there is welded to their sunlounger day in day out. And the ones in different countries have different food and different themed activities and obviously different excursions. The myth that people who go AI to Spain/Egypt/Mexico never leaving the hotel is probably just that, a myth.