MIL says she doesn't want to be in our wedding photos!

[Godotsparks]

Getting married in 8 weeks time.

Future MIL has form for sulky, odd behaviour. For example not speaking to DP for almost the last three months and then 'making up' by sending us customised felt wedding dolls without anything on the packet to say where there were from!

Her latest one is that she doesn't want to be in any of the photos at our wedding. Her excuse is that she has a lazy eye and she's self conscious about it! Funnily enough this self consciousness does not stop her putting pictures of herself on facebook

It's a small wedding, so everybody will notice and she will frankly just make herself look like a dick.

AIBU to be sick of her attention seeking bullshit? Really just wish DP would tell her to fuck off!

In that case are you sure she's being awkward? She might be happy to put pictures up on Facebook where she has decided she's happy with how she looks but doesn't want photos she won't be happy with on your social media, wall, albums etc for others to see?

Maybe... I didn't think of that.

Ideally I wouldn't have any photos given I despise being photographed myself (inherited from my own dm) I just assumed weddings are an occasion where you suck it up cos you have no choice?

Check she is sure. She will say that she is. Treat her as an adult, and de-dramatise the situation. Accept her choice as her wishes, don't give it another second's thought, and take the pictures without her. Do NOT play into her hands by begging/pleading/reassuring. If people ask on the day, just tell them she's self-conscious about her eye and doesn't want to be photographed.

Let her do what she wants to do but I bet a pound to a penny that she is on those wedding photos when the time comes

If people ask on the day, you don't give them the 'eye' thing as an excuse, it's nobodies business except MIL.

Merely say, "MIL prefers not to be in the photos"

The other thing you can do is say to her that no photos of her will be used in anything without her OK, so not to worry about a thing.

How was the wedding OP?

She sounds positively dreadful. As for the no pictures ploy, just say "whatever you want" and then ignore ignore ignore. Don't get pulled into her mental patient drama. If she wants to be that miserable, she can be that way on her own.