AIBU to expect a child to go to school if they've stubbed their toe? What have you kept little ones off with?

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Just as the title suggests would you allow your child a day off school if they'd stubbed their toe, no blood, no broken bones, no bruise.

I for one wouldn't, but my sister has and I've told her it's not appropriate.

The DD is 10, I think she's been played but hey maybe I'm being far too harsh?

Opinions very welcome just please don't flame me!

What would be helpful are examples of why you've kept your dc off school.

A subbed toe? 😂 They'd be going to school.

A child as clumsy as me would never have been at school if that was a justified reason for a day off.

DD was kept off school with contagious illnesses- chicken pox , D&V and really bad colds where she had a temperature and I could see she felt ill. Normal stuff like tummy ache and a mild cold she went to school with.

A stubbed toe? I sent my DD back to school with a broken foot before fracture clinic the next day!

In my defence the A&E doctor did say it was okay to do so and also DD wanted to go back because she didn't want to miss her IT lesson! (DD is 11 - Yr 6 by the way).

I'm a teacher, you'd be amazed at some of the reasons (can't give details sorry) kids aren't in school. The parents become 'known' for this behaviour and it can result in the kids being collected in the morning by someone from school.

My ds 14 broke his toe at school playing footie - I didn't even pick him up!! Dd did it years ago and hospital said they couldn't do anything after sitting there for 5 hours!! He was full of himself thinking he was going home until teacher informed him I said they could keep him!!! Hobbled for a few weeks but healed fine.

Both DCs have always been sent in unless they've been genuinely ill; DS2 had chicken pox recently so lost a few days but aside from that he's never had time off.

DS1 is under Neurology and has ASD so occasionally has time off for appointments relating to those if we absolutely must but like DS2 he's never been kept home for anything other than genuine illness. I'm a bit unkind and tend to think if they're that unwell school can phone.

I'm a bit ashamed to admit I kept my daughter off once because her pet rodent died. She was in a state though! But even I wouldn't let her stay off with a subbed toe.

Does your sister work?

There are 3 types of people

People who will send their kid in,even when they shouldn't.
People who keep their kid off for any sniffle,sneeze or stubbed toe.
And reasonable people that use common sense to judge whether their kid should be in school or not.

Kept dd1 off for sports day in year 1. She hated it in reception youngest in class so came last in everything which she found mortifying as so public.

She said she had a headache in the morning which we both knew was a fib. we had a lovely day reading at home and made some cakes. Live next to school so we could hear all the cheering which we studiously ignored. The next day she said she felt fine again and happily went to school. Was wrong on paper but glad I did

DD broke her arm in yr6. We left for the MIU at 1:20pm & were back at the school to fetch her brothers at 3:10pm, with her arm in a cast & expectation of no other treatment. She had had some paracetamol. I would have sent her back into class if school not finished for the day.

2 other yr6 girls broke their arms that year & had a week+ off each time.

If the school was flexible on girls footwear and it wasn't painful, then yes.

If I thought by sending them in, I'd get a phone call by break, because they were in pain, then no.

Three things make me keep them off, high temperature, something contagious or D&V.

That's the right call Kerala
My Dsis had a terrible time with school bullies. Mum and Dad would quite often let her have a day off just because. Emotional needs are as important as physical needs and I would do the same if I felt the kid needed a break.
So far mine have only stayed off for d%v and fever though.

A stubbed toe? Oh ffs that's ridiculous.

My DD cut her head open, had it glued at A&E, I was planning to keep her off nursery for at least a few days as she was obviously in pain but she literally begged me and cried her eyes out until I told her she could go!

Even nursery was a bit about me bringing her in. But when I called and explained that she wanted to come in and heard her crying saying 'I wanna go to school!!!!' In the background, they said ok.

I can't imagine it would be the kind of stubbed toe that you hop around swearing for five minutes and is ok after. There would be no reason to keep a child off for that.

But judging parents for keeping children home with broken bones is unfair. My son broke his elbow at school and knocked all the broke. bones out of place so had to have surgery and wires. He was off for a few days. Was quite nasty.

I will admit I get it wrong sometimes (DS can turn in an Oscar-winning deathbed performance when he wants to, only to be bouncing around within an hour or two) but even I wouldn't fall for a stubbed toe (not that DS hasn't tried on occasion!)

In fairness, I have on occasion marched him into school only to have them phone me up half an hour later to say "please remove your pestilent offspring from our premises." Basically my diagnostic skills are rubbish - just as well I didn't try to train as a doctor.

Remind her of this when she moans about 100% attendance.

DD had a thumb injury and we werent sure if it was broken so off to A and E we went. They concluded not but there was soft tissue damage lovely doctor said "I'm on duty from 2 to 10 tomorrow so come and see me if it gets worse and I will have another look... but not before 4pm please because you need to go to school"

My six year old really tried it on with a cough once. He whined that he thought it would be unfair to infect the other children!
If he'd really been running with snot I'd have agreed, but it really was a tiny cough. He was fine.
Did keep him off for a day when he puked in the middle of the night.
It wasn't a bug, nobody else caught it, he wasn't sick again and ate well.
By 11am I was considering sending him in! He was driving me round the bend.
Then there was the time he spiked a high fever. I didn't know, in the morning he was just a little quieter than usual and didn't complain of feeling ill.
Went to pick him up at the end of the day and his teacher asked if he'd had a bad night as he fell asleep during story time!
That's when I saw he was sweaty and very hot to touch. Had to walk home too, poor lad was very unhappy!
A stubbed toe? No way. Go to school!

Is it possible it was worse than it sounds?
Very unlikely I know, and of course staying at home with a stubbed toe would be ridiculous usually!
But I got a whole office full of when I mentioned Dsis had been off school after the cat savaged scratched her leg. A week and a half of antibiotics (prescribed), calpol and iodine pads later and we have been told to take her in for IV antibiotics if it doesn't stop oozing pus by tomorrow.

But of course if you say she's at home for a cat scratch it sounds awful!

Wow !

I got called by the school saying DS2 was feeling sick. Left work, picked him up - he was fine (admittedly someone else in the class also said they felt sick so there may have been confusion). I walked him to the GP (wanted to get his ears checked as he's had ear ache) got him checked out, walked him back to school, and returned him for the rest of the day. The office staff refused to let him in, and only gave in when I asked to speak to his teacher

I sent DD to school with a stubbed toe (and a flee in her ear!) once. Told her there was nothing wrong with her brain and she could sit down all day. When I picked her up, the whole side of her foot was black and blue! .

My mum once let me stay at home when I stubbed my toe. It swelled up so much I couldn't get any of my shoes on!