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AIBU?

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To have told this woman that the world doesn't revolve around her kid?

181 replies

FatFacedDog · 21/05/2017 16:21

Sat on a plane, window seat. In front of me, a kid aged about 5/6. The way the windows were placed I had one slightly behind me (which I would have to crank my neck to look through) and one in front of me which I could see through perfectly.

Long flight.

As the plane starts driving towards runway the kid in front decides to close all the shutters of the windows he can reach meaning the one in front of him and the one behind him (mine!). I didn't say anything at this point as I a) assumed his mother would as that wasn't his window to prat about with and b) the staff would ensure all shutters were up for takeoff anyway.

So the staff walk down the aisle and see "my" window with the shutter down and tell ME sternly to do the shutter up as has been requested already. I said "I didn't put it down!" And hastily push it back up. With this the kid spins around and says "hey! I want that closed!" So I said nicely "well it has to be open I'm afraid". His useless mother paying no attention. He reaches behind him to close it and I stop him and say "no! It's to remain open!".

At this point he whines to his mother that I keep opening the "curtain" when he wants it shut so she said "you can close it when we start flying". It was my window!!!

So once up in the air he spins around, gives me the look and slams the shutter down. REALLY irritated at this point I open it back up and say "I'm sorry, I'm keeping my shutter open for now". He screams and shouts at his mother that the horrible lady behind won't let him shut the curtains. She turns around and says "sorry, he really likes them closed". I say "well he can close his shutter but this one is mine and I like them open". She gasped dramatically and said "are you serious? He's a child!".

Now I'm proper fuming at this point and said "well maybe this is a great opportunity to teach him about respecting those around him". He snaps back "what do you mean by that??" And I say "that the world doesn't revolve around him!".

Now sensing the whole thing was snowballing I say "look, im sorry but it's a long flight and I'm claustrophobic, I can't sit for 7 hours with my shutter closed".

She spun back in her chair and snapped at the kid "just leave it open, some people are just selfish!".

SO wibu??? DH seems to think so!

OP posts:
Nanny0gg · 21/05/2017 17:53

AnnieAnoniMouse

I'd have called cabin crew and pointed out that the children needed looking after!

BrexitSucks · 21/05/2017 17:54

Fuming?
Ah come on, that's classic people watching bonanza opportunity.

You only have to put up with them for 7 hrs & the 7 hrs are bound to be dullsville anyway. Listening to the kid tantrum & his mother fume would be my idea of putting variety into the in-flight entertainment.

No need for emotions. Just let them stew as they please.

Littledrummergirl · 21/05/2017 17:55

Yabvu for not agreeing with the mum earnestly that some people are indeed extremely selfish. Wink

Mummyoflittledragon · 21/05/2017 17:55

People really are entitled arses. His mother is teaching him some odd things.

Arkhamasylum · 21/05/2017 17:55

She was right, OP. Some people ARE just selfish. For example, people who expect you to kowtow to their kids' whims to make their own lives easier.

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TheoriginalLEM · 21/05/2017 17:57

Maybe he was scared? mother should have explained if he was though.

RedBugMug · 21/05/2017 18:01

yanbu
I would have done the same.

PlateNotSlate · 21/05/2017 18:03

Yanbu. I have severe anxiety over flying and the shutter being open is an absolute must

frustratedddd · 21/05/2017 18:06

The shutters being open are for safety reasons, they don't ask everyone to open them for no reason.

The mother was ignorant and stupid and the child needs teaching better manners!

originalbiglymavis · 21/05/2017 18:07

If I was in ershot you would have got a 'way-hay!' of approval from me.

BoneyBackJefferson · 21/05/2017 18:07

TheoriginalLEM
Maybe he was scared? mother should have explained if he was though.

If the child was scared maybe a holiday that involves 7 hours (14 hours return journey) of something that makes him scared is not an appropriate holiday

user1482079332 · 21/05/2017 18:09

Handled very well, what a god awful woman and child

HotNatured · 21/05/2017 18:11

Well handled.

BarbarianMum · 21/05/2017 18:12

Actually, does anyone know why the shutters have to open on take off? Why is it safer?

RedBugMug · 21/05/2017 18:16

Actually, does anyone know why the shutters have to open on take off? Why is it safer?

it's not safer. it's so that rescue services could look in in case of an emergency.

Summerisdone · 21/05/2017 18:18

YANBU, I'd tell my DS to stop pissing about with the windows and leave the shutter up if it's not his window to mess with, and he's only 2 and a half.

SoupDragon · 21/05/2017 18:19

Maybe he was scared? mother should have explained if he was though.

And maybe the OP should have opened with the claustrophobic comment rather than getting increasingly arsey

dun1urkin · 21/05/2017 18:20

It is a safety thing, but it's not so the emergency services can peek in through the windows from the top of their ladders
It's so your eyes are as adjusted to the light levels outside the plane as possible.

blackteasplease · 21/05/2017 18:21

Yanbu. I can't think you will have any other responses.

Tomorrowillbeachicken · 21/05/2017 18:23

YWNBU. THe mother was a bitch and the apple doesn't fall far from the tree.

TheoriginalLEM · 21/05/2017 18:23

Maybe he wasn't going on holiday though?

originalbiglymavis · 21/05/2017 18:28

It doesn't really matter why he was flying. What if he fancied kicking the chair, playing with the lights, running up and down the
aisles or singing 'let it goooooo' for 7 hours with mum letting him get on with it?

BarbarianMum · 21/05/2017 18:31

Thanks RedBug

I don't think the OP needed to justify why she wanted the shutter open, just wanting it open is reason enough. What next - do random children get to dictate if her fold down table is up or down or what movie she watches?

FrancisCrawford · 21/05/2017 18:33

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