is this normal play for a 2.5 year old?

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So I dont feel like DD plays properly so before taking my concerns elsewhere i thought I would watch her and write down what she does..

Between 3pm and 7pm yesterday

she had happylsnd, football, cars, boxes, bags, a tent and her toy kitchen out. her train set, playmobil, babies, books and blocks were also in the room but on the shelves still.

• lined her cars up
• organised her boxes inside the tent
• put cars from box to boz
• threw her football several times

dinner

• put boxes inside the bags
• carries the bags around the lounge and bought them over to show me
• put her shoes on. put her shoes on her brother

bedtime routine started

She didnt once ask me to join in
She only once showed me something
Didnt once ask for help but when I offered she accepted

she didnt looj at any of the other stuff. If i Take away the boxes she might play with her toys in the sense she empties all of the storage tubs out. throws them around. she does do a little imaginative play but its very rigid. she always brings me tea and food from her kitchen. she always cleans her dolls bum, puts a clean nappy on and throws away the old one then puts baby to sleep. its very set, if that makes sense.

She only has about 30 words but i cant work out if she is playing right for 30 months

they are used for lots of issues esp if there are speech and language difficulties involved. they are widely used in my Dd's school and there are lots of children with other needs than ASD.

Sorry if my earlier post implied you don't interact with her, that's not what i meant. You outlined her day and she had been playing on her own a lot so wasn't hearing much speech however you have said she doesn't like to play with you so it's hard to resolve that.

Very annoying that you have to wait that long for hearing assessment. I know someone in a similar position and it's so unfair.

I will feel a hell of a lot better once the hearing test is done.

Was readinf up on how they were done earlier and I can't see DD even remotely co operating

My son was referred to a speech therapist at 3 when i raised concerns about his slow speech development and apparent inability to understand abstract concept/instructions. He was diagonised with comprehension delay and arrangements were put in place so that he gets SLT support at school. In nursery and reception, he continued under SLT although his teachers never reported any problem with him. Very strangely, within a year of school starting, his speech and vocabulary shot thru the roof and his understanding increased enormously, so much so that SLT signed him off.

Some NT children also develop quite slowly, but at some stage many of them do catch up. Until then we cant do much (apart from helping them in their speech).

I hope you get your answer soon OP.

Lots of little children can't manage audiometry. It is possible to do a special hearing response test under a general anaesthetic, this is done quite commonly.

If you can afford private testing it may be worth considering.

If you are worried it could be her hearing, have you tried using any makaton sign language with her? It's what SALT suggested for us with glue ear, you use it alongside speech to emphasise key bits (e.g. signing biscuit while asking would you like a biscuit). We did sing and sign classes as they were available locally and their baby sign is mostly makaton based but our SALT also gave us the details of proper Makaton classes.

I currently look after a 26 month old who plays EXACTLY like this. He also never really asks for help, but will accept it if I offer it most of the time.
All sounds like perfectly normal to play with me. At this age, I would expect her to be able to play alongside others, but not actually interactively with them, if you see what I mean?