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Original poster

To ask DH to shave my pubes?!

84 replies

smileygrapefruit · 20/05/2017 20:56

34 weeks pregnant. It's fucking impossible! Should I ask him or are there some things that even husband and wife shouldn't share?

Lighthearted relating to the struggles of late pregnancy!

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scaevola · 20/05/2017 21:27

"it advises hair removal"

That'll be on the lower abdomen, around the incision site (because of the dressings - same as they advise men having thoracic surgery to shave their chests).

It's not a good idea to depilate close to delivery. The microabrasions that if causes (which you probably usually wouldn't notice) are a route to infection.

Brown76 · 20/05/2017 21:29

Electric razor and just trim it. It was useful for the weeks of bleeding post birth, made it easier to keep the area clean.

MusicToMyEars800 · 20/05/2017 21:29

My OH asked to shave mine once Grin I let him, he did a better job than I can Blush

BertrandRussell · 20/05/2017 21:31

Yeah, because nothing about birth is more undignified than having pubic hair...........

BuzzKillington · 20/05/2017 21:32

Go and get it waxed off.

BertrandRussell · 20/05/2017 21:32

"DIY blind job, looked down when Midwife was bed bathing me and had to apologise for the state of my lady garden."

No you didn't, you know. Adult women have pubic hair. The midwife knows this.

Original poster
smileygrapefruit · 20/05/2017 21:33

Believe I've been pregnant for over 3 of the last 4 years so sex while pregnant is practically all I know haha.

Tiptoe I'm cringing at the thought of trying to use hair removal cream down there!

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purplecoathanger · 20/05/2017 21:34

It's not my bag at all but each to their own.

podstick · 20/05/2017 21:34

I got DH to shave mine before I had my DCs. You can't possibly be expected to shave that area when you can't see what you are doing, it would be dangerous surely! On the flip side I shaved DHs when he had his vasectomy. Not sure if that was because he had no idea how to go about it or whether it was some kind of payback after 4 DCs. I went in with him and watched them do it to make sure they did it properly too - Happy Days.

Original poster
smileygrapefruit · 20/05/2017 21:34

Bert I said light hearted in my OP.

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fessmess · 20/05/2017 21:36

I have never shaved my pubes, is this a thing now? 😵

GrandDesespoir · 20/05/2017 21:36

Presumably you've had sex with this man if you're about to give birth to his child? In which case why on earth would it be inappropriate to ask him to trim/shave your pubic hair? Confused

Not that I really understand the current obsession with removal of pubes, but that's another thread...

user1471443813 · 20/05/2017 21:37

My pubic hair was completely out of control by 36 weeks and I couldn't seen it or reach it to do anything about it...

So DH set about it with his beard trimmer! It looked much tidier afterwards ;)

BertrandRussell · 20/05/2017 21:38

"Bert I said light hearted in my OP."

Yes, I know you did. But if somebody feels they have to apologize to the midwife (and it's by no means the first time I've heard that) for having pubic hair, it's moved from lighthearted to heartbreaking.

Incidentally, you really aren't supposed to remove pubic hair in the period leading up to birth-there is a risk of infection. Trim it short if you like but don't remove it.

AuntieStella · 20/05/2017 21:40

I'm afraid this is an open internet site, so you don't get to moderate what sort of contributions are added to the thread.

I'm old enough to remember campaigning against compulsory depilation for labouring women. A practice that was not stamped out until the 1980s.

That's whibIn(and other posters mt age) remember strange little factoids about the (albeit small) increase in infection risk, as it was those sorts of things that finally led to a more evidence based approach and the end of tyat requirement.

thiskiwicanfly · 20/05/2017 21:43

I remember being rounder than I am tall on the day of my induction and deciding that I needed a tidy up... so I closed myself in the bathroom with a pair of nail scissors. Couldn't see a thing (hadn't seen my feet in months) and had a go at a trim. It wasn't until a couple of days after delivery that I realised just what an awful job I'd done. Looked like I had mange!

So either hubby or a professional wax (although I reckon that would hurt LOTS) or as previous posters have said... leave it. The midwives don't care either way!

CherriesInTheSnow · 20/05/2017 21:44

Yah I got my OH to do this and he even did it for me in very early labour :)

He was also in charge of trimming and painting my toenails from about week 34!

silkpyjamasallday · 20/05/2017 21:46

I wish I had got DP to do mine, I hadn't seen them for a long time and I was shocked when I could suddenly see over my belly at my post birth bath. Wasn't pretty.

ew1990 · 20/05/2017 21:48

I'm 16 weeks and asked my OH weeks ago if he would do it when I got to big to do it myself, thought I'd prepare him in advance

FurryLittleTwerp · 20/05/2017 21:48

We were in a rented house with an enormous bathroom while I was pregnant. The shower was over the bath. If I went to the foot end, beyond the shower curtain, I could shave while looking in the mirror above the sink, with a bit of contortion Grin

I only trimmed the length & area, not the whole lot. I had a planned CS.

Original poster
smileygrapefruit · 20/05/2017 21:51

I saw tiptoe 's post as a lighthearted response, sorry if I'm mistaken.

Fwiw I don't care what the midwives think at all. I want it to be neat so I feel comfortable prebirth. Believe me it would be the last thing on my mind during!

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Believeitornot · 20/05/2017 21:52
Grin

Why not just slather on a load of veet and hope for the best.

MeadowHay · 20/05/2017 21:57

DH trims mine every now and then or helps me do it as I have coordination problems due to being on the autistic spectrum. Don't see it as a big deal -shrug-. It's not like he hasn't seen me before Confused. He is happy to help.

NearlyEaster · 20/05/2017 21:59

The itching from a dry shave for an emergency c/s with DS1 was worse than the pain from the c/s.

I had it all waxed before DS2 to make it easier to deal with post birth and to avoid need for shaving again
Had a VB anyway!

TaliZorahVasNormandy · 20/05/2017 22:04

Ask him. If he wants in the garden, he could atleast trim the hedges.