to cancel this cake so last minute

[CaptainObviousTwo]

A friend of a friend commissioned me to make her birthday cake for her, I made her sons a few weeks ago. Originally when she ordered it, I lived a few miles away but have since moved to the Midlands (they're in London). I kept my word, made the sons birthday cake and drove it down and was planning on doing so again today.
Its a 6-7 hour round trip.

My Granddad died in the early hours of this morning. He was quite elderly but its a huge shock. I'm not sure I'm good to drive to Tesco, let alone London.

Except I promised this cake to be in London at 3pm. I've still got some decorating left too.

WIBU to cancel? It seems like such a shit thing to do, and on her bloody birthday. Its a fairly simple cake, so not the centre piece or anything but I hate being so unreliable.

I have no idea what to text her and am feeling really panicky

I highly doubt they'll be willing/able to do a 250 mile round trip for a cake.

But she was happy to let you take it all that way?
I'm sorry about your grandad

So sorry for your loss

And you don't need to please people all the time (meant with sincerity not judgement) x

I am sorry for your loss OP. Strength and love to you and your family.

It is a cake for goodness sake. A real friend would understand.

I'm so sorry for your loss.

£50 is rarely reasonable for a handmade cake unless it's about six inches tall and wide. I'd imagine you'd have been making a crashing loss on it. And if she were actually a friend you'd have been invited to the damn party. She was getting a very cushy deal and you are not letting her down.

I find that when we are grieving we often fix on to a seemingly unrelated thing to worry about (I'm "enjoying" that phenomenon this week myself). It's perfectly clear to everyone else how you should proceed, but somehow it just doesn't compute in your own head. In a year or so you'll look back and forgive yourself, even if you can't do so now.

Eat the cake with several large cups of tea. Maybe tell us a story about your grandfather so we can remember him with you.