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Paying for smashed TV

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Lovelilies · 19/05/2017 10:49

Help quick!
Bit of a dilemma. DS (3.5) playing at friend's house this morning with her DS also 3. I live 2 doors down and had just nipped home for something. The TV got smashed. The Mum says she saw my DS throw a toy plane at the TV.
Background, their TV got smashed last week when the 2 boys were alone in their lounge, it was assumed the other boy did it as he has 'form' for breaking things. My DS likes to play with him. He's pretty non verbal so have to go by what my DS says.
Now I wasn't there when it happened this time. My DS says the other boy did it. I do realise he's 3, and may tell fibs. I don't really think my DS did it, but like I say I wasn't here and the other Mum says she saw it.
So I have given her £230 (what she thought he TV cost).
Now her dick head partner is kicking off saying it cost £320 and I need to give them more money..
help!! ConfusedSad

OP posts:
FizzyGreenWater · 19/05/2017 11:41

'I am sorry to see that there is going to be a problem with this but I am not going to be paying any more towards the TV. This is the second time your TV has been smashed because of the children not being supervised. There isn't even proof that my DS was the one who did the damage, but I accept that he may have and that's why I've given you a significant amount of money, certainly more than half the cost and enough to buy another tv. I won't be giving any more and I'm really upset that you think it's ok to harrass me like this. Ask yourself whether you would be paying similar if I claimed your DS had broken something at my house and you didn't even have proof that he did? I am under NO obligation to pay anything - the amount I've given you is entirely a goodwill gesture.
Please let's leave it now, I would really like us not to fall out over this. I understand P is also unhappy about it so I would be grateful if you could let him know that I have no intention of providing more money and tell him to please not contact me about it.

innagazing · 19/05/2017 11:42

I know this is beside the point really, but I find it extraordinary that TWO televisions got smashed in one week! I've never experienced (or heard) of even one tv ever getting smashed by a child. And I've been around for a long time. Shock

BiddyPop · 19/05/2017 11:42

Their tv has been smashed twice in the space of a week by the same pair of 3 year olds? Surely after the first incident, they were being more closely supervised?

Funnyonion17 · 19/05/2017 11:43

Hmm. A second TV smashed the next week. This may sound a bit paranoid but do you definately know the so called broken one is the new one? Could they be trying it on

Morphene · 19/05/2017 11:43

I am absolutely astounded they even asked for the money. If my stuff got broken by unsupervised kids playing in my house then that is my look out.

I can just about imagine paying what I would have to pay to replace it if it happened to me...and that wouldn't be very much because I chose to insure my belongings.

She chose to leave small children unsupervised, she chose not to get insurance. You are paying for her decisions and bad choices. I really don't know why.

Funnyonion17 · 19/05/2017 11:43

Oh and my DC have thrown alsorts at my TV over the years. Still going strong.

Morphene · 19/05/2017 11:45

fizzys response is good.

Original poster
Lovelilies · 19/05/2017 11:45

It was a new TV (replacing the first smashed one).
It was high up on the wall and a toy got thrown at it, smashing the screen.

I've sent her this message
"I'm sorry xxxx, but an accident happened involving My DS. It's unfortunate that you chose not to insure your valuables but despite me having no legal obligation to pay anything I have already generously paid £230 which is more than half the cost of the TV. I will not be offering any more money.
I hope you understand, and I'm sorry this has happened x

OP posts:
PersianCatLady · 19/05/2017 11:45

bearing in mind the one that was broken wasn't brand new
OP - Could you please clarify something?

Was the TV that was supposedly broken by your DS only a week old??

Floggingmolly · 19/05/2017 11:46

Stop leaving your three year old there alone. Two TV's smashed in a week, and your child implicated in both of them? Confused

PersianCatLady · 19/05/2017 11:47

It was a new TV (replacing the first smashed one)
Are you absolutely sure that it wasn't the first smashed TV got back out again?

I hate to say it but this really seems like a scam.

WateryTart · 19/05/2017 11:51

I think you're paying for the one they smashed, OP.

Original poster
Lovelilies · 19/05/2017 11:51

I didn't see last week's broken one, but did see this one

OP posts:
Deathraystare · 19/05/2017 11:52

I don't want to lose a good neighbour friend,

You already have or SHOULD have. They are trying it on. Please don't let your kids over there anymore.

WicksEnd · 19/05/2017 11:52

I'm sorry but that's absolute bollocks. They're pulling a fast one, the tv smashed last week and they're trying to get you pay for that. There's no second tv smashing episode, I'll bet my gin on it.
Or there wasn't even an initial smashed tv, they've bought a new one and have smashed their old one to get you to pay for it.

mummyrabbitpeppapig · 19/05/2017 11:54

Hang on...the TV got smashed last week!? Yet they managed to get another one and this one's smashed too? I smell something fishy here........

Elphaba99 · 19/05/2017 11:55

I'm inclined to agree, Persiancatlady ☹️ A TV high up on the wall, and the screen was actually SMASHED - supposedly by a toy thrown by a 3 year old? What the hell was the toy - a lump of granite? He must have a bloody good throwing arm.

Elphaba99 · 19/05/2017 11:56

Did you pay cash, OP?

BandeauSally · 19/05/2017 11:56

It's minteresting that she was happy to assume her own child (who has a history of breaking things) broke the TV last week but has decided it was your child this week. Sounds like her partner kicked off after having to pay out already for a new TV and decided to get someone else to pay for this new one.

TestingTestingWonTooFree · 19/05/2017 11:58

DH managed to smash a smartphone screen twice in 8 days recently. It's possible the tv was smashed twice, although I'd be surprised if a toddler could throw a toy high/hard enough given the position.

I'm afraid you've probably lost a friend over this OP although she's so unreasonable she's not much of a friend arguably.

specialsubject · 19/05/2017 11:59

just as well the unsecured tv didn't land on a small child.

unsupervised 3 year olds caused damage? Surprise!!

LightYears · 19/05/2017 11:59

I'd pay half, end of.

People say lazy/can't be bothered with insurance, do you not realise some people can't afford insurance, let alone the top ups for accidental damage.

JigglyTuff · 19/05/2017 12:00

Wow your DS has some superhuman strength if he can throw a toy plane (plastic I presume?) so hard against a telly on the wall that he smashes the screen Hmm

You should put him forward for the shot putt

MadisonAvenue · 19/05/2017 12:03

OP, did you nip back home because you needed something or did your neighbour ask you to go and get something?

Just wondering if the smashed TV was quickly put in place, if that's possible, while you were gone.

TempusEedjit · 19/05/2017 12:04

Does your DS throw things at the TV in your own home?

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