Women and make up. I know INB but the opinions of some are surely the opposite of pro feminism>

[mrsrumplestiltskin]

I'ts not a thread about a thread but a thread about some opinions posted to the C-section thread active at the minute.

Not just that, but what I've come across IRL in that if you like make up, would prefer to be seen with rather than without, you're somehow 'not quite as intelligent as those women who are 'confident' enough to be make up free, not putting your child's needs before yours if you had your brows done before a CS.

AIBU to think each to their own? And the fact whether you wear make up or not does not make one or the other the 'better' parent.

I don't wear make up because my mum didn't and I can't be bothered. I spend the extra time I bed :-)

I perceive beautifully made up women to have it more together than me but not in a way that bothers me.

I know I look a bit scruffy but I'm a dependable friend and a good wife and I try my best as a mummy.

I think we have a lot of perceptions that relate in no way to actual life. Sorry. Not much help! :-)

ha! and that's absolutely fine Naomi - you're happy with yourself :)

I just hate the 'idea' that on MN, and IRL, it's somehow looked down upon if you like make up and pink glittery things you're looked down upon.

I have seen this irl as well. Just a few weeks ago at toddler group, a few of the mums were saying that if you wear makeup you're not as good of a mum, as you're sacrificing time with your children to do it.

I like to think of myself as being a devoted, present and loving mum. Sometimes I wear makeup, sometimes I don't. On the days I do I'm just a good of a mum as the days I don't. I never really understand why people care so much.

I don't think it's about make up per se I think it's about the amount of make up that someone wears. I wear full make up for work everyday but it's mainly light. I don't think I would be judged in the same way as someone with very obvious make up- HD brows, contoured cheeks etc. I think women / girls who prefer that are probably put in a particular category as fairly dim / shallow. I'm not saying it's correct but it does exist.

Ps I would never sacrifice my identity as an individual as a result of being a mum. You could say that anything you do for yourself e.g. Clean your teeth, brush your hair etc is taking away from your children. It's bullshit. I can't stand martyrs

I have no judgey pants on re those who regularly wear make up, each to their own and all that.....What makes me sad is that this is seemingly what's required by society to conform.

Hi Spirited - you see I agree with 99% of your post = I just think who the hell am I to decide how much make up is too much? Really?? Yet we have some posters on here who claim to be feminists slating women who wear makeup.

Hypocrites simply..And with that I'm going to take my made up face off to bed with a mega supply of wet wipes ')

I don't judge those who choose to wear make-up. Each to their own.
I do, however, find it totally sad that some are so down about themselves that they hide behind make-up and can't let anyone see them without it.
Be you. Don't hide. You're great with or without the slap trowelled on.