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Do you think being a mothers is the hardest job in the world?

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brasty · 17/05/2017 10:48

Do you think being a mother is the hardest job in the world?

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xmaspost · 17/05/2017 18:59

Not for me! But there is a lot of responsibility (or at least I feel it).

I guess it depends on your kids, your personal situation and your own expectations.

Sometimes it feels like hard work for me, but in general it is something that I enjoy.

TestTubeTeen · 17/05/2017 19:13

No!

It's challenging, it is often tiring, it entails huge responsibility. But not more responsibility than a NT able-bodied human is generally set up to manage, barring disability, serious illness / other traumas.

And it is a choice. We don't all have to do it.

But in the end, if we love our kids and engage common sense it can't possibly be the 'hardest job'.

Maddaddam · 18/05/2017 10:01

No, I find my day job much harder. Even with 3 teens, and 2 of them currently doing major exams, it's still quite a pleasant role.

None of mine have any special needs though. I think being a parent of dc with special needs might qualify as "hardest job" status. Especially the dc who need lifelong care.

SkyBluePinkToday · 18/05/2017 11:51

If you are laid back, you'll be laid back about being a mum.
If you are a just-get-on-with-it type, you will just get on with it.
If you are more of a drama queen, you will definitely find having kids the 'toughest job in the world'.

With the usual disclaimer about this not applying to parents of a child with special needs.

motherinferior · 18/05/2017 11:54

No, I'm a total drama queen. Over think most things and like to plan.

But still, with teenagers who don't have additional needs or mental health issues, it's not that hard-going.

motherinferior · 18/05/2017 11:55

But then I do think independence and self-reliance are very important to instil if young people are to become confident mentally healthy adults. I wouldn't want to hot-house or over-protect them.

NeoTrad · 18/05/2017 11:58

Independence and self-reliance are the product of excellent analytical skills and the ability to identify the best sources of information and second opinions before taking decisions.

motherinferior · 18/05/2017 12:15

Yes, exactly, I think my children are developing those.

EnthusiasmIsDisturbed · 18/05/2017 12:22

No I do not think if it as a job its a role

though some mothers have a much more difficult time parenting their children than I do

blueshoes · 18/05/2017 17:42

Puddock, sorry for your loss Flowers

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