Do you think being a mothers is the hardest job in the world?

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Do you think being a mother is the hardest job in the world?

I love being a mum, though I find working full-time as a divorced parent very tiring. And it depends how you do it. Once the kids are older if you ignore them, feed them crap food, it's probably not too wearing.

I don't find it difficult, I find working difficult. I do think parenting is the most important job there is.

having children is a lifestyle choice in a relationship
err no it's not. Or at least for most people it isn't

Yes it is. We are born therefore we have a life. Life is full of choices. Some people choose to have children. Some people dont. So its a choice.

Its about sex, Its about biological necessity

You choose to have sex if you want a child. Generally. Still a choice we make in life. I had 3 children because I wanted children and was lucky to be able to have them.

good for you Laguna
We are talking about mothers in general, and for many mothers in this world being a mother is not a choice.

You choose to have sex if you want a child.
well YOU might, but again for millions of women and mothers, this is not their life at all.

No it's not the hardest job in the world but it is regularly the hardest job that most individual women do.

It's not a job. I am a mother and I also have a job. My partner is a father and also has a job.

You could argue that being a SAHP for pre-schoolers is a job, of course.

No. Ignoring the fact that it's not a 'job' per se, its still no because even though at times it's taken more more blood, sweat and tears than anything else in my life (job or otherwise) i truly feel that it's worth it all and I will always feel that I'd do anything for my children whereas a job can sometimes leave you thinking 'it's not worth this shit'. Hard yes, but it comes with rewards that money just can't buy and nothing comes close. But yes, it is bloody hard!

I'm not sure why people get so stuck on the word job. I've been a SAHM, a WOHM, a W(At)HM - across all those days I get up and attempt to do all the things that need to get done - the jobs.

I don't even know how I did that re-post, sorry

Being a SAHP to pre-schoolers is the least job like part of parenting, IMVHO. So little thinking is required compared to later years.

Why is it harder than being a father, if he does the bulk of the childcare?

I imagine you don't get proper training like you do with a job.

The hardest job in the world?

In comparison to those (for example) in developing countries scavenging rubbish heaps for anything to recycle and make a few pennies to live on, er, no.

Why is it harder than being a father, if he does the bulk of the childcare?

I'm not sure it is necessarily but given the gendered assumptions that good parenting comes naturally to mothers, that mothering should make for an uncomplicated fit for a competent woman, the idea that only bad mothers might find mothering to be a difficulty at times and trying to navigate through all of that knowing that on the one hand, that you make all the difference in your child's life and having all your efforts devalued on the other.

Whereas an active father is held up to be a progressive agent for good, an example to others.

I don't know really, I haven't really formed a full option on the matter but I imagine you could make the argument along those lines.

Option- opinion

I don't find being a parent to teenagers overly demanding, it must be said. It seems to fit in much more easily with my real job.

It's not a job, nor, in my opinion, is it a privilege (hard to be a privilege which is by nature exclusive when you share it with literally billions of other people), or a right.

It is a massive, astronomical responsibility though!

Educational objectives and contexts make a big difference to the workload, IMO. It seems endless, sometimes

I think those who give opinions should declare how many kids, their age and if they have time away for work etc. All can contribute!

One child is easy, it's like having a little best friend you adore. Two was a shock to the system for me!

The parenting part of looking after ds is straightforward. The caring part ( bits that are extra with a disabled child) is much harder but I still wouldn't say it's the hardest job in the world.

Nope. It's a gift, it's who I am, certainly not a job, certainly not the hardest thing a woman can do. It can be tough at times but 97% of my life as a Mother is lovely. Genuinely lovely.

I think those who give opinions should declare how many kids, their age and if they have time away for work etc. All can contribute!

Mine are 9 and 11. I worked part time when they were little, but found being at home with them a million times easier than work. I'm a teacher. I found being in charge of my own 2 babies/ toddlers pretty easy compared with trying to teach 30 other people's pre-teens or teenagers at a time tbh. One of the good things about teaching is that you certainly learn to appreciate how well-behaved your own children are...

It's not a job but if you were to compare with actual jobs, it would be one of the easiest...

No. compared to my job its easy.... its more fun the only downside is the lack of sleep

Ah, fortunately my daughters are quite self-motivated and independent. I see my role as more to support and encourage them, and enable them to become rather fabulous young women.

I have one, a 2 year old. I worked full time. Parenthood certainly has its tiring moments but I don't think it's the hardest job in the world. Being at home on mat leave and school holidays is a breeze compared to work!