Re scrunched up clothes in nursery bag

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Ok please tell me if I'm being unreasonable to find this irritating or if I'm expecting too much from the nursery (I realise this is a minor issue in the scheme of things!!)

DD(3) will go into nursery wearing a Tshirt and cardy or jumper so she has a layer to remove if she gets hot running around. Without fail, every day she is at nursery, said cardy is scrunched into a tight ball by the nursery staff and shoved in her bag. I've seen them do it before my very eyes...

It has often only been worn for a hour or two but cannot be worn again without ironing as it comes out looking like a rag (I'm not being precious about this; I don't iron most things if they dry reasonably smooth from the wash. My standards are not that high)

AIBU to find this really annoying?! More often than not they get chucked into the laundry bin despite not being dirty

museumum Sometimes I have"spare" clothes in that bag so long that I eventually realise they don't fit them anymore! 😂

You could teach your child to fold her own cardigan and put it in her bag herself. Last week I did a double take when I saw a reception child fold her clothes for PE like she worked at Benetton. Everyone else's pile looked like a tornado had ripped through the building.

Wait till school - my ds is 11 and manages to screw everything up into his games bag on a daily basis / and don't get me started on bringing home the wrong clothes too! Don't sweat the small stuff....

Put cardi in a bag nicely folded. Tell staff cardi is in there if dd needs it. Ideally leave at nursery if possible but if not just then leave in bag. I would imagine this is happening because she just doesn't need it. At this time of year I would send her in long sleeved cotton top and with her coat in case of outdoor play. Just knock the cardi on the head. They just don't really care about the folding or crumpling. This comes under the heading of no one will care about you and yours as much as you do. They have plenty of kids to care for and their focus is not on your dd's cardi.

Oh for a simple life where the biggest worry is a crumpled t shirt

Those pesky servents should do better eh op?

I am sorry you have too much time on your hands. I work full time with 2 year old twins.
I am glad my children are safe each night not wherever their cardigan is ironed

You've got years of this ahead. Just a quick shake and hang up and re-use the next day ;)

Life is a precious gift.

Don't waste it fretting over a creases cardi.

No your expectations are not too high.
I,and my fellow nursery nurses have respect for other people's belongings.

I,and my fellow nursery nurses have respect for other people's belongings.

As do the staff looking after OPs child - hence the cardigan being put in her bag, rather than shoved on a side somewhere and forgotten about, or being trodden on, or having paint/glue/other unidentifiable substances dripped/wiped on it.

Herding cats was a great description, and so apt.

The cardigan is coming home, chances are it won't every day at school.

I don't understand how a child's cardi can be so badly crumpled that it is impossible to wear? The creases will just come out if she puts it on.

I work in a nursery and it's a miracle they put it in the correct bag, no parents at my nursery even bother to label clothes.

I had a pair of pants put in the bag once still containing the poo that had been done in them! It had been in there hours

Wait a minute - people iron toddlers' clothes??!

That's a bar raised waaay too high.

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Yes YABU. I really don't care what state my DC's clothes are in - the staff do an amazing, incredibly hard job and the fact the cardigan is in their bag at all is enough for me.

At 3 I'd be expecting her to put her cardigan back in her bag herself under supervision, to start to learn a little more independence and responsibility. If she's putting it away herself she would be praised for managing the task, not criticised for not folding properly. I think you need to readjust your expectations.

Why don't you try asking them...

yabu. just give it a good shake and hang it up once home to smooth it out.

I agree with you OP, as it takes no more time to fold in half. Normal chain stores that I go to overseas seem to screw/roll my brand new clothes up rendering them unfit to wear. Do UK shops still fold clothes or has it changed everywhere?

I used to send a change of clothes to my childminders and always came back in a ball - also often with shoes/trainers covered in mud. Just thought part of childhood. At seven years old now no change in washing & ironing. My daughter scrunches up her cardy and shoves in book bag.

Yanbu I don't think taking a bit of care over clothes takes that much time and effort and not too much time and effort for nursery staff.

I'm just amazed that they manage to keep all the kids at DS's nursery moderately under control, never mind folding stuff!

Imagine if they folded every cardigan. That's half an hour easily.

They simply don't have time.

I can see how it's annoying but imagine having 30 children, 30 jackets, and 30 bags. Maybe ask them to hook it onto her peg instead

This would annoy me too, but I'd just grumble under my breath at home and wouldn't say anything to them. If the clothes are actually coming home again and not disappearing forevermore, you are doing well, trust me.

I always washed everything after a nursery day. I found my dc came home smelling of that particular nursery smell...

Same here - it's the peculiar stale oven chip mixed with Playdoh smell. School is the same!

At least the stuff comes home. DS2 is in nursery so everything makes it back. DS1 is in Year 3 and just this term has lost 2 coats and 3 jumpers, all labelled. He has a peg, locker and drawer but still nowhere to be found.

Yabvu