Right this has pissed me off since Friday. my friend is being unreasonable (( with diagrams ))

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On Friday we were in a local cafe, there are two comfy sofas (( Exhibit A )) and we sat down around the same time as two older ladies. We sat chatting for around 10 minutes when a third lady turned up to meet the other two sat down (( exhibit B ))

She immediately started stripping around because there wasn't room for her to.sit down with her friends, glaring at me and my friend, shaking her head and tutting and making a big show.of grabbing a chair from across the room and bringing it over. Even her friends were visibally shocked at her rudeness. Had this not happened I'd have got up.when I clocked she was with the other 2 and moved but this behaviour just made me want to.grind my arse into.the sofa and wax lyrical about how comfy it was.

But what did my friend do when I was in the loo ?? She gathered our stuff together and moved to a smaller table AND gave the lady our free chocolates. Basically killed her with kindness 😑😑😑
(( exhibit C ))

Anyways, would I have been unreasonable to lie across the sofa and feed myself chocolate cake because of the ladies rudeness ??

What did your friends say when you got back from the toilets????

Ooh maybe stroppy old lady just sat down in your place when you went loo not giving friend any choice but to move ( I bet she had razor sharp elbows)

Best diagram on Mumsnet ever

Your friend is a bloody doormat.
Ditch her and get sane ones who don't leave free chocolates behind, I mean, WTAF??
Also demand compensatory chocolate from her for leaving the free ones behind.

I would have bitch-slapped her with a wet fish......

The grabbed the chocolates back and ran!

What a terrible friend you have!

Seriously, love the pics, and no, YANBU, what a moany ol' bugger!

She's no friend OP.

Your friend is very unreasonable!

Her excuse of because they were old is pants as hard chairs are much better for your back than squishy sofas.

Where is the line between being the bigger person and giving in to tantrums?

The line is giving up your chair, ad opposed to giving up your chair AND providing free chocolate.

Love a good old diagram, 10/10

I'm trying to weigh up who is the worst friend in this situation: the other women's friend who has questionable rage issues or yours who gave your free chocolates away!

Where is the line between being the bigger person and giving in to tantrums?
The line is wherever it needs to be in order for the chocolate to be on MY side of it.
The friend was being VVVVVVU giving away YOUR (and hers) free chocolates, I've never heard ANYTHING so OUTRAGEOUS as giving away some else's chocolates in order to mollify a flippin' madwoman.
I am also mortified to discover, from above link, that I have no Thorntons cafe in my vicinity. Thorntons is BU.
I might have to make a cake today after this (scuttles off to kitchen to find random ingredients).
Top diagramming.

I would have grabbed the chocolates back, taken a bite out of each, smiled sweetly at the rude woman and given them back to her.
Maybe dropped a Silent but Deadly for good measure.

This is my favourite thread

OMG I know this isn't the point of the thread but Thorntons have cafes? and you get 2 free chocolates there?

Yes!

Yes, they do!!!

There is one in newcastle - and the chocolate is wonderful - proper delicious melt-in-the-mouth expensive chocolate.

Thorntons are pretty grim

Bollox are they goats

Thorntons is the food of the gods - do you think Joanna Lumley would have advertised the 'Art of The chocolatier" for mere money?

No!

She was paid in Champagne Truffles, Diplomats and Sicilian Lemon delights.

Alright Happy tell you what, if you ever need some Thorntons, just come and drag a chair around me while waving a pitchfork and you can have mine. I won't even draw a picture of you. Promise.

(I will concede that their lemon meringue ice cream is/was incredible)

LTF (leave the friend)

No decent friend gives chocolate away. You just can't come back from such betrayals. Bad enough to give up your seat but to actually give up the chocolates...

How did that conversation go any way? "Here have this seat and by the way have these chocolates as we are so very sorry to have got in your way"

Thorntons chocolate is crap. Their continental collection - viennese truffles, alpines and the apricot ones - are to die for, as are the round ones in the gold foil.

Continental selection is amazing . . .

. . . . goats, I'm in the shed now - can't find our pitchfork, but there's a scythe here, will that do?

And I demand to be in a diagram. I am practising my catsbum mouth which will broaden to a wide smile of delight as I scoff your chocolates and their chocolatey deliciousness trickles past my epiglottis . . .

Forget the situation, those drawings are fan-bloody-tastic

Your friend WBVU in rewarding undesirable behaviour which will only encourage more of the same.

YWDNBU (but I would say that anyway as you appear, in pic two, to have grown horns in your rage which makes you verrrrry scary indeed.)

I would have cut out friends heart with a spoon for giving MY chocolate away to some arrogant woman who had thrown a toddlers strop.

'Because they were old'.

The majority of examples of gobsmacking rudeness I have involve women of 70+. It obviously does happen but I personally have never suffered huffing/puffing/tutting, glares at/unsolicited comments about my tattoos or brass necked shows of entitlement from younger people. "Respect your elders" indeed