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To be really annoyed that this shop assistant had to comment ...

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Nicpem1982 · 15/05/2017 15:59

I'm sure this has been done on here a million times already but I've personally never experienced this before so I'd like some opinions

I took my dd (2.8) to our local toy shop today to spend her pocket money.

She chose a big bucket of dinosaurs and we went to pay my dd said greeted her and said I'd like these dinosaurs please, to which the lady replied "are these for your brother? As boys play with dinosaurs."

There was clearly only me and dd in our party and no boys were near us, I explained that she liked dinosaurs and could we pay please.

We paid eventually and left but only after the cashier attempted to coax my dd into swaping for shopkins (I assume these are in the opinion of the cashier more appropriate for a little girl)

We use this toy shop regularly and have never had this kind of experience, aibu to think that the cashier just could have said nothing

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Nicpem1982 · 15/05/2017 16:23

Take heed - I wish I had the time to "imagine conversations In my head" you clearly have better time management than me if you have the time to do this 😂 As i can barely one day from the next sometimes.

Well done you though for being able to find the time to daydream 💭

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shinyredbus · 15/05/2017 16:25

I'm still on the fact your 2.8 year old has pocket money! Confused

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Nicpem1982 · 15/05/2017 16:26

Shiny - from her grandma yes. Instead of a little present each time she sees her she puts some money into her piggy bank then periodically she gets a visit to the toy shop for a small treat and the rest goes into her savings account that way mil is still "treating her" but my house isn't getting filled up with small presents

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pepperpot99 · 15/05/2017 16:26

I don't really believe you either but even if it is true, don't complain FFS - it's no biggie in the grand scheme of things. Not when people are dying of cold and resorting to food banks. Why some posters are hoping the shop assistant should lose her job/be disciplined for some alleged comment is beyond me.
Don't sweat the small stuff.

Xmasbaby11 · 15/05/2017 16:27

A 2 year old with pocket money? Is this normal these days? How often and how much? Mine are 3 and 5 and don't get any! Genuine question.

I think that was an annoying comment from the cashier but I wouldn't pursue it.

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Nicpem1982 · 15/05/2017 16:28

I'm not complaining to the store.

I just feel that the cashier could have said nothing rather than the whole dinosaurs are for boys why not have shopkins instead

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Starlight2345 · 15/05/2017 16:28

Yes I am more shocked at the 2.8 with pocket money than cashier attitude ( not that I agree with her comments BTW)

At 2.8 my DS thought every coin was £1 so I could give him 1p as happily as £1..Happy child.

KatharinaRosalie · 15/05/2017 16:29

Of course, every other thread on Mumsnet is only about important topics like global warming.. Hmm

In my opinion, sexism and telling children what they should or should not be playing with is actually quite important too.

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Nicpem1982 · 15/05/2017 16:29

Xmas - grandma gives it her, it's an agreement that we came up with instead of a truck load of sweets and small toys ever time she sees her

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Badbadbunny · 15/05/2017 16:30

Or perhaps the cashier could have just done her job, taken the money and let you carry on shopping in peace?

I hate it when people try to be over-friendly. What's wrong with a polite hello...that's £3 please....would you like a bag...goodbye! We don't all want a lengthy conversation with people we've never met before and are unlikely to meet again.

KatharinaRosalie · 15/05/2017 16:31

I might have missed the comment but I didn't see anybody suggesting the cashier should be sacked, or anything similar. Just that some training might be necessary.

PrivatePike · 15/05/2017 16:34

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SusannahL · 15/05/2017 16:37

What I can't understand about this thread are the people suggesting the op complain to the manager, just because the assistant dared to suggest that some toys are more usually associated with boys than girls.

Honestly! I guess these are the same type of people who got their knickers in a twist about Theresa May and her husband talking about 'boy jobs and girl jobs'!

MissionItsPossible · 15/05/2017 16:38

Next time tell her you can't pay for anything because you feel like your money is too masculine and not feminine enough for her.

BaronessBomburst · 15/05/2017 16:39

What's wrong with a 2 or 3 year old having pocket money?
They need to start learning at some point!

29Palms · 15/05/2017 16:42

Why does it matter? It was only chat.

MiniAlphaBravo · 15/05/2017 16:43

I wouldn't complain either but not sure why people don't believe it.

I was in the library today and a little boy picked up a 'princess and the pig' book. The mum said 'daddy wouldn't be happy if you brought that home' so the boy had to put the book back and chose one about a space ship which met with approval.

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Nicpem1982 · 15/05/2017 16:48

Mini - that's awful

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amusedbush · 15/05/2017 16:51

Yes I am more shocked at the 2.8 with pocket money

My granny gave me £2 a week from when I was tiny. Then my brother was born when I was 6 and we got £1 each Hmm

NavyandWhite · 15/05/2017 16:53

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Nicpem1982 · 15/05/2017 16:56

Navy- yes I felt it was odd too

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Misswiggy · 15/05/2017 16:58

Of course it's perfectly fine for your daughter to play with dinosaurs, action men or a massive toy machine gun if she wants to.

But there will always be people of an older generation with slightly sexist views who will find that strange.

Wouldn't bother me in the slightest though, it's the kind of thing my mum would say cos she's basically not very 'modern'!

TreeTop7 · 15/05/2017 17:00

I think it's pretty grim "everyday sexism". I would't want my daughter to pick up on these attitudes and assume they're acceptable.

Polidori · 15/05/2017 17:01

Who are these tossers saying they don't believe it happened? Of course it fucking happens. I'm a father of two daughters and it happens all the bloody time.
OP YANBU at all.