AIBU that he went out again

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DH was out this morning doing a favour for someone (a pleasant one -
he enjoys it), home for lunch and then straight out again for a hobby that took up the whole afternoon (2-7pm). I had to cope with our three very energetic/argumentative kids by myself the whole day, which included the birthday party for our eldest from 2-5pm – which we had organised before he realised it clashed with the hobby. (i.e. he didn't check.)

He usually goes out to meet a mate twice a week, one of these being Sunday evenings. I asked him if he was going out again tonight, he said, "yes, if that's ok." I made it clear that I didn't want him to, but he went out anyway.

I work and he doesn't. Kids are at school though, and he doesn't really keep the house or anything. I struggle immensely with tiredness due to a chronic condition. I was working all day yesterday. I am shattered and could have used a little bit of company for once. Aargh.

" I love him and want to be with him, and most importantly I don't want my kids to have a 'broken home,' but only time will tell whether things will indeed change."
Time and again, I read threads from women who fear the effects on their children should they split from their clearly inadequate and piss-taking partner. What I wish they would consider is the effect on their children should they stay.

You and your husband are modelling relationship behaviour to your children. So what do you think they are learning? What are your daughters learning about how they can expect to be treated? What are your sons learning about how they will treat their future partners?

And don't kid yourself that you're keeping it invisible to them. Children are little sponges and soak up all the nuances, even if they can't understand what's going on; they absorb, they remember, they copy.

I would never ask anyone about their financial situation so I do not want any answers but I do want OP to work this out for herself.
How much money does h bring into the house?
How much do you receive in Child Benefit and Tax Credits?
It is highly possible that your children are providing for your do nothing h.

So you are not only providing the money for your h to live you might be making your children provide for him.
This is just not acceptable. He is sponging from wife and kids