To dislike children playing on the streets

[massiemal]

It is rather dangerous, noisy and vulgar. AIBU to dislike it?

Nothing I was pointing out i kids csm be unkind in my nice middle class leafy primary school or the council estate I now live on its life

I dont mind children but i do get fed up of the over 60s clogging up the shops and buses at weekends when decent people want to shop. Garden centre was choked with them today (especially the cafe). Very vulgar. They should be kept inside.

So keep them in the house playing solo so as to avoid any kind of fall outs or squabbles? Yeah, that will help them.

Mine do. We're vulgar as a tro....
HTH

Massie I'm a teacher and a mum of 3. Most of the time kids can work out their differences. If they can't they can always just go in to their house, after all they are only playing in their street.

Yes but X, it's the setting, not the class () I have concerns about.

In other words, if the 'street' was Leafy Lane I would still be reluctant to allow my children to play on it unsupervised for the same reason as I wouldn't let them out on Grime Street.

Or would you be happy with your children playing out with unkind children as long as they were from a leafy primary school?

I'm a teacher and a mum of two. IME, they can't.

We live in a back to back. No garden. The street is a cul de sac, my kids know all the neighbours. Sorry if that offends your sensibilities. I am grateful they have a safe outside space.

Bunty

No. There's a difference between independent play that's still roughly supervised (the playground, garden, park) and just letting kids out to be feral.

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I haven't actually said anything negative about the children personally. Although I don't live in a great area, in fact. I'm not ashamed of it, though. I'm a lone parent so don't have a lot of spare money.

Oh dear.

Massie we have obviously had very different experiences.

Don't let your kids play out than personally I think it s good for my son to play out but don't condemn other parents for their choices .

There's a difference between independent play that's still roughly supervised (the playground, garden, park) and just letting kids out to be feral.

And likewise there's a difference between letting your kids play on the street with their friends and turning a blind eye to Lord of the Flies style antics.

Your choice of words, feral and vulgar, seem designed to provoke.

I haven't actually said anything negative about the children personally

So calling them 'feral' and 'vulgar' isn't 'negative' then?

I was a feral and vulgar kid (by OPs definition) and I fully intend on my kids being the same. My mother believed strongly in children not needing to be entertained all the time and learning through finding their own ways of playing. As it happened we all turned out alright

Is that you Dr Sternin? I am sure your children will spend many a happy hour observing the play patterns of the children on the street from their bedroom windows.

Feral? Vulgar? You sound positively delightful!

They aren't safe out unsupervised in the streets roaming around until it's dark - It's rumours like this that make the streets unsafe. You know what makes the streets safe? the fact the people use them! Far less crime is likely to be commited on streets that are frequently used due to the natural surveillance. Tell people the streets aren't safe and they stop using them, leaving the lone person who has to use the street very vulnerable, unprotected and more likely to be attacked as the perpertrator won't be so worried about witnesses or intervention.

Where my Mum lives the parents seem to send the kids down to her end to play where they scream, break her plants and make her dog bark whilst they enjoy the peace in their garden totally unfazed by the chaos. My daughter, in a different area, had her plant baskets taken by kids playing in the street. I had a flat with a fire escape once and a group of mids including a toddler appeared in my kitchen uninvited once, that was weird. It makes me uneasy and seems a cop out by some parents. Does depend where you live though I suppose. Older teens will inevitably get into trouble on the street I think.

I don't have kids, but love hearing the neighbours kids out in the summer. They are lovely - polite, look out for each other, instantly move to the pavement when a car is coming. Nice to see the mix of ages too - they appear to range from about 8 to 12ish. I don't think they are totally unsupervised, the front doors are generally open when they are out and I assume the parents are keeping an eye/ear out.

By the OP's definition I should imagine British children must be pretty well the only ones in Europe that are not feral.

As a pp said, if you are playing outside and the other children are unkind, you can always go inside. You're not stuck with them on some kind of desert island.

Older teens will inevitably get into trouble on the street I think - Why is it inevitable?

Oh dear.

My two loved playing out when they were small and played in back gardens too.

YABU