Would you find this rude?

[Topas0117]

Hi

Would you find it rude if someone invited themselves to stay for tea (dinner) at your house whilst visiting for 'just an hour or so'. Even if they suggest buying their own food to cook?

This has happened to us a few times by a particular family member and it really annoys me. They come to see us stay a while and will later say 'oh I'll just pop to the shop, get a pizza and garlic bread, and we can have a mini buffet'.

It puts us on the spot and I find it rude!

Anyone else?

Could you suggest (forcefully) that you go round to hers next time? Then you can go home when you like.

Or start making appointments for 3.30

This would piss me off massively. I'd probably manage to say they couldn't stay but I'd resent being put on the spot like that

Why suggest food your self . And make it . Therefore not goes in your kitchen.

I would just say "I couldn't possibly eat anything now" we eat much later. And I've already planned tea. It will go to waste other wise. I think that is a perfectly good reason. And it's the truth.

stressful if you suffer from anxiety. Are you able to say - we'd love to see you but the kids need tea around 5 and I think we need a quiet one today? it's really hard but sometimes it's just simplest to be honest. Good luck!