To send this passive aggressive message

[dontbesillyhenry]

'Friend' of mine regularly leaves me out of meet ups with other friends. Last meet up I was not asked and expressed and interest. Was told great come next time date is x (very soon). Have heard jack shit. So have sent 'hi xxx I will not be able to attend on this occasion- I trust you will let me know the next date and I would love to see you there'

Similar experiences with some old "friends" of mine. There has been some history as to why I am feeling left out which I won't go into but I often find out about meet ups after the event or find out that I haven't been invited to weddings of friends who came to mine. I used to wear my heart on my sleeve about this kind of stuff and let them know if they have been out of order but IMO and through experience, it doesn't work with them. you have to evaluate whether you want to continue being friends with them long term, but if not don't fall out on bad terms as it won't make you feel better. Make a decision and be pleasant with them but if you feel you can't meet up with them, just be vague and don't make any further plans with them. It's not healthy having people like that in your life, I've learnt the hard way after years of torment and analysing messages and scenarios. I've realised they don't share the same values or treat people the way I would do or some of my other friends do so although it's sad, I know they aren't a part of my future so I am gradually phasing them out. This is the decision you need to make so stop yourself getting hurt again and again. I hope things work out for the best OP but I would stop with the overly formal messages because it just gives them something to bitch about when you aren't there.

You feel they're excluding you on purpose.

Why do you want to go where you're not wanted?

Find new friends!

You are already hurt and upset w/them hence your message. You've given them more time, thought and emotion than they have to you which does indeed hurt. None have reached out to you to ensure you can come. Proper friendship is based on reciprocity - only invest where you get a return & value those who value you back. Relegate to acquaintance level, be unavailable, remove her/them from Facebook & set the bar to your level/not hers when it comes to friendships.

Why would you want to be friends with them if you think they are leaving you out? Fuck 'em

As Kika and Prophet say. Only a few friends are for life, most are for a much shorter time. The main criteria should be that you trust them and feel comfortable. If that no longer applies move on, you will make other friends.

The grammar in your post is so sketchy, that I cannot really understand who sent what message to whom. However if you're being excluded it can not only be one person responsible? Why don't you bypass her and ask someone else in the group?

Sorry but who needs 'friends' like that ? If they wanted you there you would have had an invite .. Nothing passive aggressive about it .. it's just bad manners and downright ignorance .. find some nicer friends ..