to want to be able to shag DH?

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DH and I have been married 20 years and always had a reasonable sex life until the older DC became teenagers and were therefore awake later and would still be awake when we went to bed. House is smallish with walls that you can hear farts through so no question of getting down and dirty if they may still be awake. DC3 also has ADHD and will be awake until the small hours (melatonin did not work on him). Just to complicate matters youngest DC (7) STILL gets into our bed during the night or will be awake at 5am so an early morning fumble is out of the question too.

We had got into a good routine of a nice long session when they were all at school/college as DH normally has one or two days off during the week. This changed when DC1 finished college and is now at Uni so only needs to go out 2 days a week. She won't get a job as she is sooo busy so will spend much of the other days in bed which have clashed with DH's days off. She has now finished until September and won't bugger off out! In addition DC3 has been refusing school since January so he has been at home most days too. Although he has just started going in part time now.

We last had sex in December and I am fed up with it. I have considered telling DC1 that she needs to go out on her Dad's day's off so we can have sex but she will obviously be horrified and there will no going back from that.

What can we do? There is no spare cash for us to have an afternoon in a hotel. Don't fancy a fumble in the back of the car or an'al fresco' session as wouldn't be able to relax (obvs we can go 'out' and DC1 can babysit) as that would be a waste of time.

Go out rather than move out even! Xx

Tell the student she has to be out of the house for a couple of hours. She can go to the public library to study.
Your house, your rules.
If she insists on knowing why, tell her!

Start charging rent, she can't sit on her arse until September without a job. Stop giving her an allowance, if she has one, she will need to earn to pay her way. Hopefully you'll get some privacy soon.

The uni student has to get a job, how does she survive with no money? Do you subsidise her? Use the money you usually give to her to book a hotel room and go for it

It gets WORSE when they get older?

We are having a massive drought here as the toddler refuses point blank to sleep in her bed. She has to be wedged right beside DH.

Don't tell me it gets worse

We have similar issues but our children are a bit younger, so reading this thread with interest.

My DS (11) walked in on us at midnight one time when we thought he was asleep - we weren't being loud anyway.

A few months later we were discussing a house extension to accommodate a new master bedroom. Overheard DS say to his older brother "that will be good because then I won't hear them having sex".

I'm not sure all those posters advocating the OP "just do it quietly" really appreciate the inconvenience of having paper thin walls
Our bed backs onto the wall where teenage DS's bed is (quirky shaped rooms, no other set up will work) Thankfully he's got into the habit of staying up late at the weekend and therefore sleeping late. DH in particular does feel a little put off by it though, so we have to content ourselves with a silent horizontal fumble before the suns up.
It's not that I'm adverse to DS knowing we do still have sex, more that it's something that I think most people don't need to know is happening when it is IYSWIM?!

Imagining your parents DTD is just yuck. Listening to it would be intolerable.

If it's the bed making a noise....sex on the floor?

randomly thinking the 7 year old must be knackered if awake at 5 am

Some of these suggestions are making me wet myself . Please don't just go for it, and make loads of noise. Im still scarred from hearing my parents at it once, and I was 10 years old.

Early morning shag? Surely teens are comatose at 5/6am in the morning.

I can sympathise. Like Fatgirl we have a (teen in our case)dc with SN. He can hear a pin drop several rooms away and is the master of the stealth approach when dh and I are trying to have a private conversation. I can imagine a voice piping up asking what we are doing!! And our ancient bed is very very creaky! Needs new bed and lock on door.

Sorry, saw early morning is not possible. Meh, I'd go with your the suggestion of sending your dd out for a few hours, surely she can be bribed.