To shit on all their pillows?

[Shoveyourshittystickupyourarse]

Just cleaned the bathroom. Went to clean the toilet at the end and found the bog brush caked in dried shit. Completely caked, not just a bit grimy. The holder covered too.

I'm fucking fuming. DCs are all adults - 19+ (except the baby & it clearly wasn't him), DP is obviously an adult too. I'm a SAHM so I clean the bathroom, so they knew they were leaving it for me.

It is so fucking disrespectful, I am actually in tears here.

I don't even know what my aibu is because I can't see how I'm nbu to be so angry.

I understand you feeling disrespected. But is it possible that a friend/visitor did it and was too embarrassed/rude to fess up? Although I am at a loss to understand how something like that could actually happen!?!

Bin the brush and also ask who is offering up their toothbrush and hand to clean the loo?

Get them all into the bathroom and show them. Tell them how you feel. Leave tbe house and say you'll be back in 1 hour and expect it to be sorted.

I don't think we've had anyone in using our bog since I last used it, and if I did that at someone's house I'd clean it off anyway!

I'd be fuming too. Throw the brush away and buy one of these. m.tesco.com/h5/groceries/r/www.tesco.com/groceries/product/details/?id=253941921&sc_cmp=ppcGHS+-+Grocery+-+NewPX+%7C+Shopping+GSC+%7C+All+ProductsPRODUCT+GROUP253941921&gclid=CM3859Xm3dMCFQO77QodstQEZg&gclsrc=aw.ds

Makes a massive difference to what must be one of the most hated jobs in the house. That way you don't have dried shit hanging around the bathroom.

Wichity - that's what we have - I hate loo brushes

Disrespectful areseholes! Call them all into the bathroom and yell at them. That's utterly disgusting behaviour, they should be ashamed.

Witchy, that's what it was, except the shit was all over the non-disposable handle thing (including in the blue clamp bit at the end) and dried all over the little stand. It was behind other stuff so I hadn't seen it before today.

They are all out and I have visitors due so had to clean the toilet.

Mine have done this too

I've seethed Over the years silently but last year I did crack and did as PP suggested

I fucked off for the day and told them I was going on strike and if the whole house wasn't sparkling I'd never lift a finger again. I was so mad I left my phone and they all shat themselves.

It worked and now I get asked if there's any help I need

Discover the most likely culprits and share the bog brush and stand between them. Tuck it nicely into their beds to discover when they're sleepy. Manky fuckers

I fucked off for the day and told them I was going on strike and if the whole house wasn't sparkling I'd never lift a finger again. I was so mad I left my phone and they all shat themselves.

And then presumably cleaned it up without leaving it caked all over the toilet brush?

Don't get a brush with flushable pads. Water companies are trying to ban them. They cause blockages and sometimes end up in the sea.

Previous posters are being unreasonable for not answering your question!

Yanbu. .. do it!! A turd per pillow!!

Don't shit on their pillows, that's way too obvious. Smear small amounts of shit on the back of the bedhead or under the bedslats. As they lie in bed, the smell will drive them nuts.

(Obviously don't do this to your own bed!)

I haven't seen one of those disposable loo brush thingies in the shops for aaaaaages- I assumed it was because of the environment.

Anyway op- yanbu- one day I might do what a pp has suggested and sod off, leaving them all to it!

My kids are young but I am FED UP of the state the toilets are left in.

They don't call her eggys for nuthin' ^^

Those "flushable" loo brush pads are NOT flushable! Nor are "flushable" wipes, sanitary protection, etc etc. Please don't flush that sort of stuff

Definitely have a serious discussion with the family. My then-boyfriend (living together) sometimes left shit steaks in the toilet and when I mentioned leaving the toilet clean he said "someone else will do it". I went pretty mad on him for that, because the only other person living there was me, plus we had a cleaner, but it's incredibly disrespectful to deliberately leave that mess there for someone else to clean up regardless of whether that someone else is a paid cleaner.

I don't get it. So they used the brush to remove shit from the toilet, which is helpful but then failed to remove the shit from the toilet brush.
So they removed a "contained" mess from the toilet and spread it all over a loo brush?

How is that possible?

Throw loo brush in a bin bag and then gather them all at a convenient time just before they eat to show them how disgusting it is and how disrespectful it is.

I think a full on hissy fit as described above is in order. Put the baby to bed and then go fucking nuts.

Make it quite clear that SAHM doesnt stand for Stay At Home Maid and that if you are not shown more respect and appreciation for what you do, you will stop doing it. That the only people you will be cooking/cleaning/washing etc for will be yourself and the baby. Then leave them to it.

Bog brushes are fucking grim anyway.

I would never have one, like I would never have a CARPET in the bathroom. ^^.

Makes me glad my kids left home at 18-19 LOL. I know four different women who have adult children at home (two have 3 kids , and two have 2 - nearly ALL in their 20's except 2 who are in their 30s!)

They never stop cleaning up after them, and waiting on them, and are basically handmaidens, yet all they do is complain about them. Fuck that for a game of soldiers. Even when mine were at home they weren't this bad. They'd tidy up, and get themselves lunch sometimes, and wash up occasionally.

This isn't going to get any better, so you need to tell them to completely change their ways, or leave. IMO, if your kids don't leave home by 21-22, you will never get them to leave, and you will be posting threads on here continually, asking what to do about your annoying, scruffy, adult children.

You have my sympathy OP, but I don't know what to suggest if they don't change their ways, except buy a smaller house, say there's no room, and tell them to move out.

Oh no!!! There's no excuse for THAT to be covered in shit!! I think they all need their noses rubbed in it. Disgusting little buggers.

Talk to them when you re feeling calmer, going on strike is a bit childish

I have spoken, rather abruptly to my DP about it, who is baffled at my fury. Doesn't see why I am getting quite so upset because yes, it's not a nice thing to do but why am I overreacting like this?

I am getting stabby now. Clearly not going to get the back up there then. Am beginning to suspect it was DP.

"Overreacting"? WTF? How would he like to clean up someone else's shit? That's disgusting and so totally lacking in any respect.

Why does he think you should clean it up?