To want MIL to stop saying I'm huge!

[Bebopaloula]

I'm 34 weeks pregnant. So far, I haven't been sensitive or overly emotional to too many things. I've had the odd sob sesh (for no particular reason!) but in general I think I've been pretty settled.
However, my MIL, in the last few weeks has made repeated comments on how big I am. These range from simple comments like "oh you're stretching again" which are fairly tame to "oh my god girl, you are massive" and "oooft - you're huge!" and the one that tipped me over the edge last night "i think it's going to be a 10lb baby".
I politely said to her that at my last scan 2 weeks ago, baby was only around 3 1/2 to 4 pounds to which she replied, "yeh well that was 2 weeks ago, let's see!".
I'm paranoid about what I'm eating now and worried that I'm not seeing what other people are seeing.
My DH keeps telling me I look great and I thought in general I hadn't gained too much weight across the rest of my body but I can't help thinking about it now

I had everyone tell me my massive bump was hiding twins or triplets and that the doctors must have missed the extras. People do that when you're pregnant because they're silly. Ignore them.

Op i would ignore her but ask dp to speak to mil.

Enjoy the last few weeks of your pregnancy.

I don't mind people commenting on my bump being huge, but one of the in laws has taken to calling my Fatty 😑 apparently it's a term of endearment...

I think you are being sensitive. If your bump is growing where's the harm in pointing it out?

Seems non malicious so do yourself a favour and take the comments in the spirit they are intended

Unless of course there's a huge back story

My aunt said this once. Once.

She said to me, placed her hand on my stomach and sad "oh babe you're getting huge now! Look at you! You look like you've doubled in size!"

I poked her tummy and said "it looks like I'm not the only one!"

She wasn't best impressed. At all .

Try it .

It's hurtful though. Get your DP to have a quiet word with her. Maybe she just doesn't realise how it is upsetting you. Don't let it spoil your pregnancy. Good luck!

Stuff her, tell her your happy, her DH is happy and you don't care if you do have a 10lb baby (I'm not saying you will) as long as it's healthy.

OMG, what a stupid woman! If she's on the chubby side herself, say to her....yeah well, at least I'll be slim again after the birth, what are you going to do?!

It was not a criticism.! Some mothers love to have a growing bump and love people to notice.
Why would you insult someone back when they meant no harm and were not making a personal insult?

She means you have a big bump. Which you do. She's not saying it to be nasty.

I think you're being too sensitive op.

I'm nearly 39w and anytime I step outside now all I hear is a mix of 'Oof look at the size of you!', 'Oh my god you're HUGE!', 'how have you not popped yet!'.

It's irritating, I get it. But they're obviously talking about the fact that I look like I'm smuggling a basketball under my top and not actually about my size.

She might not mean it in a mean way. I adored it when people told me how big I was in my first pregnancy. Second time round I'm actually smaller but hate people saying I'm big and I feel like a whale 😂 Just goes to show how sensitive pregnancy hormones make us. If it's upsetting you just say "oh please don't say that, I'm getting really self conscious about it. I know it's silly but I don't want to get grumpy with you because I'm overly hormonal" kill her with kindness 😂

*When I was pregnant people stopped me in the street to tell me how huge I was, I was told I must be having twins, must be very overdue (at 30 weeks!!!) and so on.
Neighbours would remark on my size daily, shop assistants, the whole, entire world it seemed.

I was enormous but was well aware of it. It just got tiresome, like I hadn't noticed my gigantic belly or something.*

I had this. So annoying. People say it's small talk, well let's small talk the weather then! I had a man say to me I looked like the prow of a ship.

Tell her if you can. Shut it down.

I'm 14 weeks. At 12 weeks mine said, "I think you've put on weight". No I bloody hadn't love and I can see you never lost yours (she has a massive, massive ring of fat around her stomach but insists she's a 10).

People seriously don't realise what a full-term pregnant woman looks like.

I had people tell me that I looked like I was about to pop for about the last three months.

I used to give them a face and say, "Well that's not actually how it works".

YANBU, it's boring to have people going on about your appearance the whole time.

I had this from when I was 4 months pregnant by so many people. Wow - you're big, you'll have a fat baby! The worse was 'are you sure you're not having twins?!' - I would just say no, in actual fact, I had twins but I miscarried one. Not many knew (only told a handful of people) It was awful but I was so sick (HG) I just didn't have fight in me left.

I hope you are strong and tell your MIL to stop being mean and nasty. Failing that, I would avoid her till you ooo! Good luck and hope the birth goes smoothly.

i sometimes comment saying awww look how big you have got i never mean them but the baby bump, never thought i would offend anyone so i need to rethink how i word things. also my MIL always thought she knew best, and she knew i was having a boy everytime i seen her her it was boy this boy that etc well my DAUGHTER is 8 and she assumed she was coming to hospital to see the baby being born haha!! i was like erm no chance my mum will be with me even gave my daughter my mums name as her middle name. to be fair my MIL is a witch when i was in labour she went and got her son something to eat and me and my mum were starving i would have happily gave her the money back as the shop in the hospital wasnt open so couldnt buy anything. (before anyone says the hospital should have gave me something to eat they didnt, i went in the monday night and left the wednesday night and never got anything to eat or drink from them) everyone puts weight on when pregnant so dont worry about how you look and enjoy your pregnancy.

Most healthy, functional reply "Stop saying that, it upsets me".

MN reply, said breezily and with a big smile (or with a death stare ) "Did you actually mean to be that rude?!"

My favourite: lean back with classic hands in lower back pregnancy pose, stick your gorgeous bump out more and say "Yes, aren't It! Isn't it marvellous?!". Do that every time, she'll get board.

Or do what a friend once actually did when somebody commented on the size of her bump: she visibly jumped, gave a screech and said "Fuck, how did that get there?!" looking horrified. The person never commented on her size again.

People get overexcited when pregnancy/babies are involved and forget their manners. It is HER problem that she is being rude. You challenge is to not rise to it IMO.

bored

Your DH needs to tell her to back the fuck off, can you ask him to do that?

Well just to stick it to MIL, I'm going to say you look absolutely FAB, OP. You're glowing and you're the picture of pregnant health. Your bump is exactly the size it should be.

Ignore the silly woman.

yanbu but, still, I wouldn't take it to heart. most women are "huge" by at least some measure at 34 weeks.