AIBU that he shouldn't eat these?

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When I was pregnant 4 years ago I had hyperemesis where I couldn't eat and was sick for every waking moment.
I still have strong aversions to certain foods that must have come from association with that time as I only have to smell them and I am right back in the full horror of it. These include cooked eggs, baked beans, yoghurt, black pepper, vinegar, fried chicken.
My husband has a fondness for omelette and baked beans for breakfast rather than cereal like every one else in the house and it makes me heave so we stagger breakfast times although the smell lingers and the bean juice on his dirty plate or on the work surface and saucepan still make me gag. AIBU that he simply shouldn't eat these if it has such a strong impact on me? I don't respond like that out of choice!

These are all good foods for kids or foods that kids like so I am concerned that you are preventing your kids from eating these foods? Eggs especially are very nutritious etc
I think you do need to find a way around this as you will be creating food issues for the children.

YANBU. Our kitchen roller blinds have been up since my first pregnancy as the sound of them being put down used to make me vomit and I can't stand the thought of hearing that noise ever again. I also cannot smell fromage frais without retching.

People who haven't had HG have no idea how terrible it is or what the long standing impact can be like. I don't blame them; I would've thought the same before I had it.

I feel nauseous to the point of chundering, with the smell of chewing gum. He only chews it rarely. I can't kiss him or be near him. I'm not doing it to be mean.

C8H I know i was not talking about morning sickness, i have actully had hypersmes and was hospitalized because of it when i had my twins sorry i didnt make my post clear

I think your list of 6 things are unreasonable because they are basics. And not just 1 or 2 items. I put pepper is every dish I cook. Posters saying: doesn't he care about you, are being unreasonable.

You are not being unreasonable and unless you've had hyperemesis is really hard to imagine the impact of these smells.

Most of the people above probably think it's like the effect of smelling something that makes you feel a bit sick like cigarette smoke or dirty bin bags

Hyperemesis Smell sensitivity is something g completely different. If you haven't had it imagine vomiting norovirus stylee for months and months on end... dozens of times a day. The aversion to smells is horrendous and can cause instant vomiting or hours of nausea

I had it with my first and now have it with my second and muxh worse this time. The smell of shower gel, face cream, and just the smell of skin (!!) Is unbearable. Honestly may have to run and vomit now just thinking about it haha. Just husband sitting at end of bed and making the bed move is enough to make me sick.

It took me a while to get over the smells of coffee and bacon whixh were the worst with my first..

I honestly don't know if I will ever be able to tolerate the smell of the particular shower gel or face cream ever again

May be worth talking to dr about to see if anything can do... maybe some cognitive behaviour techniques?!?!

Anyway.. hope my post helps. I can see why people here are saying yabu bit with what you went through to grow your and DH s child it's a small price to ask him to pay haha!!

And If anyone thinks iabu that's fine. I hve tried ginger biscuits by the way 😂

Just read the full thread and glad to see some other hyperemesis opinions on here..

user1493022461 "if someone else suggests ptsd for something like this I eill scream " !!!!! Haha you have no idea and are being totally unreasonable being so dismissive. Zip it !

It doesn't mattend whether the OP is reasonable in her "food issues" or not. Her partner is leaving dirty pans, plates and worktops for her to clean up. The fact that she finds them repulsive makes it infinitely worse- but just doing it is arrogant, disrespectful and misogynist.

Thanks for your replies. Pleased to hear from other hyperemesis sufferers. Perhaps it is a form of PTSD? Interested in one of the responses that said about allergies... would the reply change if it were an allergy I had?

Haven't read the whole thread but most others seem to say what I would, that he should definitely clean up after himself.
Just wanted to add that I had this problem after hyperemesis with my second, and though it took a long time to clear, about four years in is when it did start to lift of its own accord. (Probably helped that the foods that made me most sick had previously been some of my favourites!)

Those are very every-day foods, I wouldn't ask dh or the kids to give up chicken or eggs. But why the fuck is he leaving the remnants around afterwards? That's really lazy and shoddy and shows very little concern for you. If he wants to continue having this stuff he needs to wash his shit up afterwards, immediately.

He should do his washing up regardless!

'Thanks for your replies. Pleased to hear from other hyperemesis sufferers. Perhaps it is a form of PTSD? Interested in one of the responses that said about allergies... would the reply change if it were an allergy I had?'

Mine wouldn't because my reply is why the fuck is your spouse leaving his mess for you to clean up when he knows it makes you sick? I think it's unreasonable for the entire house to have such a restricted diet because of your food issues, which are not allergies, but it's bang out of order for him to be leaving you his mess to clean up when he knows it makes you sick.

I can understand your aversion to eggs. I can't stand them, even touching plates with them. I don't like to smell them or anything. The only time I will go near an egg is if I making a cake and I absolutely have to add in an egg. But this is going to cook the egg and I just soak the ball in the water after the egg gets poured into the cake mix.

Ask him to please clean his own plate . Or would he rather you throw up in the kitchen sink?

By the way, when people are cooking or eating eggs I just go somewhere where I can't smell it.

Hmm I think yabu. I have a very strong aversion to several of the foods you have mentioned but I have had to learn to deal with it. I try to avoid being near them as much as possible but I would never stop another person from eating them. I've even cooked some of them. Dd waved a piece of bread with egg (which I cooked) on it right near my mouth earlier and I was gagging inside but I didn't let her know that as I'm trying to encourage her to expand her diet. Even typing it out has made me feel sick. When I cook any of those foods for her, I sort of flip a switch in my head and act clinical about it... I can't explain it very well. I don't let the disgust take hold.

Your dh really should be cleaning up after himself though. Regardless of what he's eaten.

It's absolutely possible that you have PTSD as a result of suffering with HG. I had HG, very severely in my first pregnancy and less so in my second pregnancy- and went though episodes of depression as a result. Those who haven't been through it will probably never understand. There are certain foods, smells, sounds, even television programmes that are a 'trigger' for me and it's been 9 years now! Luckily it's generally things that are easy to avoid.