To think that my DP is just being bloody weird?

[bloodyhellbill]

So we were taking the dogs for a walk and he walks off ahead of me, ok I think he'll stop and wait in a minute...nope, just carries on walking on ahead completely ignoring my existence. We got through a few fields and then I shouted to him 'you're just being rude' or something like that and then he just said I was too slow and carried on and walked ahead of me/ignored me for the whole walk until we got home. I then called him a weirdo and his response was 'how am I weird?' I'm sorry but that isn't normal is it!? If you go for a walk together surely you fucking just walk pretty much together, I mean not joined at the hip but within talking distance! This isn't the first time either. AIBU to just find this behaviour a bit weird?

my mum used to do this when I was a child and I always felt like I was struggling to keep up. It's a horrible feeling that they are striding ahead without you. Yes, it's weird.

Sounds like my DH. No dogs, but he's always a few steps ahead of me. Makes me feel like some sort of subservient wife from ye olden days.

Weird. No point of you both walking them together if he's just gonna stride ahead.

It's giving off a pretty lame and disrespectful message. It's just cold and unloving. I'm not saying he doesn't love you, not at all. But it's very hurtful. How are things between you otherwise?

Let him get on with it, walk at your own pace, he will have to wait for you at the end. Make sure you have the car keys

But yes it's friggin rude and weird...what's the point of going for a walk together if he strides on ahead

You're either doing it together or you're not

I'd have turned and walked the other way. Don't let him control it.

He was being a childish wanker.

Probably making some kind of passive aggressive point about something you couldn't hazard a guess at.

I go for dog walks every day with my DH (and my DS and of course the dogs), he has never done this! How odd.
I enjoy our dog walks it's a chance to properly catch up on life.

Urgh I can't stand this.

My ex used to do the same. It's like he thought his quick striding was something to be proud of and was impressive somehow, but it was actually just f**ing annoying! And rude, as you say OP.

That sounds like someone who definitely did not want to be walking the dog with you. And yes, that would piss me off too.

I knew I wasn't BU to find it weird and be annoyed! The whole walk I was just looking at him walking off ahead on his own thinking 'eww you are a weirdo' tbh this isn't the only thing like this he does. Sometimes he ignores me and won't speak to me for no reason, we've been on two hour car journeys where he just doesn't speak at all and I keep asking what's wrong and all he says is 'nothing' and there's such a horrible atmosphere sometimes it's actually brought me to tears because it's just like he hates me!

Very rude, my dad always did and still does this.

To be fair though, he is a foot taller than me and says my comfortable speed is like toddler speed to him.

Why are you with this pillock ?

I have little legs, and my husband is a quick walker. He sometimes strides ahead not realising I'm behind when he does he either waits for me or walks back.

He's being rude!

I get told off by the DCs and OH for doing this. I tend to stride off ahead because I like to walk at a good pace and they crawl along. Fast walking makes me feel good. I stop to let them catch me up and I certainly don't ignore them when they do but I don't see anything wrong with wanting a good stomp through the fields and a few minutes of alone time. Now not sure whether this makes me "rude and weird" or a "childish wanker"!

Just read update - he sounds horrible.

As AnyFucker asked: Why are you with this pillock??

Get rid.

Do you have kids together?

It's weird if it's just a normal walk, but if DH and I are doing a proper hill or cliff walk I often go well ahead of him as I enjoy walking fast to clear my head while he faffs about taking bad photos. I also get a better view if he is behind me on a narrow path. I always stop at certain points when I can't see him to let him catch up, though!

My oh just strides ahead without me, we never walk the dogs together he just goes off. Does this whenever we go to a show or a country fair.
I don't think he is a pillock or a childish wanker. He just strides off (as a pp at over a foot taller than me)
If it's that awful then talk about.

My husband and brother both do this as they're faster walkers. Problem when you do that with dogs is that they don't know who to go to between the owners. Particularly a nightmare when the dog is on a lead!

He's polluting your life with his controlling toxicity. Free yourself.

It's weird, it's rude too. Sound s like unresolved issues, but most couples have those.

This would annoy me, it is selfish and what is the point of going for a walk together if you aren't together? I used to be fitter than DH & could hill walk faster than him. But I didn't, I moderated my pace so we could both enjoy it together. He is a faster cyclist than me, so cycles behind me so he doesn't get too far ahead. It is called consideration and your DH isn't showing any.

My DP sometimes does this by accident, as I'm quite a slow walker, but he was always corrects himself when he realises.

What your DP did sounds quite rude and passive aggressive.

Really nasty behaviour. The thing in the car, the 'nothing' when something is clearly wrong: he's either massively passive aggressive or horribly controlling. In my experience a person who is either of those things won't change and will blame you when you pull them up on it. Get rid.